Hi I’m blue! I’ve been married for 18 yrs this May. Most of my marriage has been quite challenging. My husband and I got married very young, I was 21 he was 25. In the initial years of our marriage he was in the military. During that time I know of 2 affairs he had. One of those I didn’t discover until 10 years into our marriage. At that time he reconnected with the lady (she lives in South America). He would show me pictures of her and her family. He would Skype her in our family room. I was told she was an old friend and the 2 of them were working together on a business venture. At one point he left his email account open and I discovered messages of them reminiscing about their sexual encounters and their past relationship. When I confronted him about it he was unapologetic and said I shouldn’t have invaded his privacy. Needless to say I was devastated but chose to stay in the marriage. At that time our kids were quite young. Fast forward to now, my marriage is strained. I am still resentful and I haven’t forgiven him. How do you forgive someone who never found it necessary to apologize? A couple of years ago he moved out of our bedroom stating he was protesting my unappreciative behavior. I was furious and since then I have started to search for happiness and companionship outside of my marriage. I feel terrible guilty but honestly at the same time I feel justified. I have tried so hard but nothing has worked. We’ve been to marriage counseling twice. I’ve also been to counseling on my own. I don’t know what to do or if I should continue to try to save this marriage any longer.