She says she is just not interested anymore. She says the anti-depressants have killed her drive.
Which I might understand but it does not account for the lack of any emotional attachment. During her midlife crisis she pulled back from the relationship and after a while I did, too. She was too flaky and could not decide if she really wanted to stay or go and this went on for a while. I went into self preservation mode and became emotionally detached, also. I worried about my kids and focused on myself. Now she tells me she likes it this way and says we have a great relationship. I told her we have no relationship. We go days without any real talk and we pretty much do everything separately. I think she wanted to leave during her midlife crisis but she chickened out.
I am emotionally numb to her. I have been pushed away so many times that I just quit caring. I don't know if I wanted to stay if I could make it work now.
I think you married my wife. Welcome to my world. No sex for the last 17 months. I have decided to go now that the kids have grown up. I would have liked to rebuild the marriage, but I can't do it on my own. She detached years ago and so did I. Good luck!