I got the I love you but I am not in love with you a month ago. I asked for the chance to win his heart back and he agreed. I tried and thought I was making strides. I thought things were making a turn for the better until the cell phone bill arrived. I discovered he had met someone and had been calling and texting (169 times) for the past month. Per the cell phone bill I realized that the conversation a month ago happened days after he met her. He tells me it is just a friendship, and has never gone any further. I believe him, but when I asked him to stop he said he can not promise he won't contact her. He says he wants to work on us, but wants me to move completely out during this process. The house was his when we got married. He wants to date again and recapture the way we felt when we met. He said he does not know why he started the phone friendship, that maybe it was because it made him feel young again. He is going to be 48 in two weeks. I wonder if this is just a mid-life crisis or something more. I love him and want so desperately to stay together. I don't want to move out, for I fear there will be no going back. Does anyone have any advice or suggestions on what to do. I believe if he wants to work on this all hope is not lost. I am currently living out of a suitcase at my mothers house to give him some time and space. We are very loving and civial and he calls me his best friend. I am his second wife. His first wife divorced him and I don't think he ever got over that hurt, and now when things are tough with us, he just withdrawl instead of fighting to make things better. We have only been married 2 1/2 years. I just want a chance to make things write and want that chance from the comfort of our home. Please advise..... I love him and I love us.