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Hello, I'm new to the site and really needing some solid advice. My husband and I got married on August 4, 2012... we lived together for a year before the marriage. I knew he didn't have alot going for him when we got together. No job, no car, a condo he was barely making the payments on and eventually lost... but that's not what I was after. I make great money and have a very good position as an executive. My husband is also nine years younger than me (I'm 38, he's 29)... We've both got children from previous relationships and everything was fabulous.
Pretty much the minute we got back from our honeymoon, he wanted access to my bank account. I told him no and it's now escalated to us breaking doors and screaming at each other almost on a daily basis. He wants access to my account, bank statements and wants my debt card. He says he wants this so he can contribute (which he only pays for gas for the car, runs about $50 a week...) and so he doesn't feel like he's "left out"... I'm not comfortable with this and feel like i'm in the Twilight Zone. We've started marriage counseling and are on week 4 of an 8 week plan... it's not helping. NOW, he's very selfish in bed, rarely do i even have time to be satisfied before he's rolling over and snoring, he's cold, he acts like he doesn't even like me and when I bring up all this he says, "I guess I'm just not good enough for you...". I'm so over it. I shouldn't feel this way about a new marriage, but i'm independent and have done the single mother thing for over 16 years, so I can do it again, no problem. the thing is, is that things were so perfect before... what happened and should I give him access to my banking, just so i can have the man i fell in love with?
PLEASE HELP ME WITH THIS! I'm so confused and unhappy and stressed out! Thanks for your time!
Pretty much the minute we got back from our honeymoon, he wanted access to my bank account. I told him no and it's now escalated to us breaking doors and screaming at each other almost on a daily basis. He wants access to my account, bank statements and wants my debt card. He says he wants this so he can contribute (which he only pays for gas for the car, runs about $50 a week...) and so he doesn't feel like he's "left out"... I'm not comfortable with this and feel like i'm in the Twilight Zone. We've started marriage counseling and are on week 4 of an 8 week plan... it's not helping. NOW, he's very selfish in bed, rarely do i even have time to be satisfied before he's rolling over and snoring, he's cold, he acts like he doesn't even like me and when I bring up all this he says, "I guess I'm just not good enough for you...". I'm so over it. I shouldn't feel this way about a new marriage, but i'm independent and have done the single mother thing for over 16 years, so I can do it again, no problem. the thing is, is that things were so perfect before... what happened and should I give him access to my banking, just so i can have the man i fell in love with?
PLEASE HELP ME WITH THIS! I'm so confused and unhappy and stressed out! Thanks for your time!