In hindsight, he is clear what his reasoning was for keeping putting it off - which I might add was NEVER the sole reason he gave, nor one he particularly highlighted. He also says he likes being married and I think I mentioned earlier, doesn't really know why he put it off so long.
Like MEM said, I am feeling like I am perpetually angry at him. There, in my head, is a long list of peeves. I am a thinker and I do consider if my feelings are reasonable and I feel they are in these cases. But he has a way of cutting me down and it leaves me really resentful.
For example, he recently started a new job. In his last job, he had early starts so we never saw him in the morning - he literally got up 10 minutes before he started work, threw on his clothes, and then went to work. In his new job he starts later so can leave later. I remember saying how it would be lovely to be able to see him in the mornings and he can help out with the younger two - he was always sad at feeling he didn't get to see them much in the week so it was a bit of a perk of his new hours.
He's been there 5 weeks now and he's gotten up early to help... maybe a little in the first week. I've asked him a handful of times... Lots of yeses, then nothing... I said again to him this morning and he said, why, what do I need him for in the mornings. I said I have four kids to get ready and it would be nice to have a hand, and he said, so what do you need ME to do then - basically saying he doesn't need to get up any earlier, it's fine for him to stay in bed and ignore me asking him for help... Then after work he regularly drops by the supermarket, or has popped in to see his mum so he's a bit later back but doesn't let me know so I end up doing dinner by myself... Yesterday after dinner I said I was going to take a shower and he threw a fit that I was going to go off for fifteen minutes and leave him with all the kids! Okay for him apparently but not me