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He's always been a very entitled person. When he bought the fancy truck, he joined a certain "truck club" and decided to spend absurd amounts of our money pimping it up. He also spends on all sorts of electronics.
We make the same amount (I make more if you include the health insurance that he can't provide through his employment), but he's always controlled the money. We have a joint account, but he does the bills. I have my own account which my paycheck is deposited into. He pays the bills out of both accounts. For years (even while he was spending like a king), if I said I needed to get my hair done, he would say we don't have the money right now. This is because he was charging so much that minimum payments were hard to make.
I haven't bought new clothes, had my hair done in three years. I make close to $40,000/yr. He spends all the money, then still must have debt.
So, recently, he says we need to file bankruptcy. I'll admit I stayed ignorant to the financial situation (not my thing really, and I don't spend), but I was stunned to find that there is almost $50,000. in credit debt and the minimum payments aren't manageable anymore.
He's always been an entitled, selfish, spoiled brat. I have zero respect for him. The kids and I look like we're on welfare while he shows off his latest toys (most recently a Hummer).
He made an appointment with a bankruptcy lawyer consultation. I can't help thinking I should tell him I also want to discuss divorce at the same time. Maybe I should consult with a different lawyer, take my half of the debt (none of which I directly bought), and take out a 401K loan to pay it? My stomach hurts just thinking I'm going to go along with bankruptcy when I didn't rack up those debts.
I feel bad for the kids, but I want him out of my life.
We make the same amount (I make more if you include the health insurance that he can't provide through his employment), but he's always controlled the money. We have a joint account, but he does the bills. I have my own account which my paycheck is deposited into. He pays the bills out of both accounts. For years (even while he was spending like a king), if I said I needed to get my hair done, he would say we don't have the money right now. This is because he was charging so much that minimum payments were hard to make.
I haven't bought new clothes, had my hair done in three years. I make close to $40,000/yr. He spends all the money, then still must have debt.
So, recently, he says we need to file bankruptcy. I'll admit I stayed ignorant to the financial situation (not my thing really, and I don't spend), but I was stunned to find that there is almost $50,000. in credit debt and the minimum payments aren't manageable anymore.
He's always been an entitled, selfish, spoiled brat. I have zero respect for him. The kids and I look like we're on welfare while he shows off his latest toys (most recently a Hummer).
He made an appointment with a bankruptcy lawyer consultation. I can't help thinking I should tell him I also want to discuss divorce at the same time. Maybe I should consult with a different lawyer, take my half of the debt (none of which I directly bought), and take out a 401K loan to pay it? My stomach hurts just thinking I'm going to go along with bankruptcy when I didn't rack up those debts.
I feel bad for the kids, but I want him out of my life.