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I am new here and would love some advice on what to do next. A few weeks after my twins were born I learned my husband was having an emotional affair that turned physical for the past four or so months with a co-worker at equal levels (so during and after my pregnancy). I learned of the affair through emails and only then did he admit to it. He initially told me he wanted to work on the marriage and go to counseling, which we did, but the entire time time he was still seeing the other woman. During this time I was grabby and trying to work on the marriage since I was faced with two premature twins and working full time, in hind sight, I should have kicked him out the minute he didn't honor his end of the deal. We went round and round for the next month of him not being sure what he wants, he says he fell out of love with me and have a deep connection to the other woman. He has continued to have contact with her to this day. He calls her at least ten times a day like he is addicted. She is 10 years older than me and not as attractive by any means, she is also married with pre-teen girls. I finally kicked him out this week so I believe he is staying at a hotel for now. I told him that if he no longer wanted this marriage that I needed to move on. I did contact her husband a few weeks ago and he decided not to tell his wife that he knows and instead work on their marriage, he does not want a divorce. They have been married 19 years. He regularly calls me to check in. He is a very nice man and I feel bad this is happening to their family also. So now I am working full time, taking care of 3 month old twins which I love dearly and not sure what to do. He continues to have the affair. Any advice would be very helpful.
I am new here and would love some advice on what to do next. A few weeks after my twins were born I learned my husband was having an emotional affair that turned physical for the past four or so months with a co-worker at equal levels (so during and after my pregnancy). I learned of the affair through emails and only then did he admit to it. He initially told me he wanted to work on the marriage and go to counseling, which we did, but the entire time time he was still seeing the other woman. During this time I was grabby and trying to work on the marriage since I was faced with two premature twins and working full time, in hind sight, I should have kicked him out the minute he didn't honor his end of the deal. We went round and round for the next month of him not being sure what he wants, he says he fell out of love with me and have a deep connection to the other woman. He has continued to have contact with her to this day. He calls her at least ten times a day like he is addicted. She is 10 years older than me and not as attractive by any means, she is also married with pre-teen girls. I finally kicked him out this week so I believe he is staying at a hotel for now. I told him that if he no longer wanted this marriage that I needed to move on. I did contact her husband a few weeks ago and he decided not to tell his wife that he knows and instead work on their marriage, he does not want a divorce. They have been married 19 years. He regularly calls me to check in. He is a very nice man and I feel bad this is happening to their family also. So now I am working full time, taking care of 3 month old twins which I love dearly and not sure what to do. He continues to have the affair. Any advice would be very helpful.