What exactly is a "few" pounds? What prevents you from staying in shape if that appeals to your wife?I have gained a few lbs and sex with my wife almost does not exist. between her cycle and her being tired we have sex maybe 2-3 Times a month.
but when we do its like punching a time clock.
:iagree::iagree:If you're the type of person who has trouble revealing your "inner life" - things like your dreams, your fears, your goals, and your feelings - then your wife may feel like she's in the relationship all by herself.
For many women, there's an instinct to nurture, and with a partner that's closed off, a woman will often start the relationship feeling like she makes a difference. In the early days he confided to her and only her in a way that made her feel special. But as routine and occasional disagreements set it, he reverts back to the closed off person he has been with other people, and she sees it. She may try to coax him to open up again, but his fear of feeling vulnerable can get in the way. Eventually, she recognizes that he won't let her back in, and she seeks other ways to meet her needs for affection and recognition.
Sex is not affection. Going out to dinner and getting away from the kids is not affection. Giving in on everything she wants is not what she's looking for, either. She wants a partner, heart and soul.