Hello, I'm new to this forum and am hoping someone can help me save my marriage. I found out my husband of 20 years had cheated on me many times throughout our marriage. I stayed with him for three more years after I found out. He was my best friend, but I eventually realized that I could not get over the pain and anger, nor would I ever be able to trust him again, so we divorced. Then I met my current husband who had also been cheated on by not one but three wives. He is a good man and a faithful husband, and we have been married for two years. My problem is that we are not nearly as compatible as my first husband and I were. I like outdoor activities. He does not like to be outside in general. I am or at least used to be in excellent physical condition. The ex and I would jog, ride bikes, hike, ski, etc. I have to twist current husband's arm to go for a leisure walk. I continue to exercise on my own, but I miss having a friend to do things with. Also, current husband is ultra-critical whether I'm filling the dishwasher, folding clothes, cooking, and even during intercourse. Everything has to be his way. He even criticizes my hobbies; I like to paint and knit, and he nearly always finds fault in what I do. He has now criticized me for losing some muscle tone, which is in part due to the fact that I have no one to exercise with and have lost motivation. I am beginning to resent him terribly, but I have no intention of leaving him. I just want things to get better. I believe I was too dependent upon my first husband, and I am certain that is part of the problem. On top of that, one of his adult children is a terrible burden to us, which I also resent. I need to find a better outlook on our marriage. Can someone help me, please?