OK well here it goes people. i have been married for 13 years and have loved every moment of it. last week my wife told me that she just couldnt do it anymore. My heart felt like it sunk so low and ever since then my heart doesnt even feel like it beats proper. I am so devistated over this as we have 2 childred that are 8 and 6. I have always been a supportive husband and never would think of abusing my spouse, I believe I have done everything to provide for her and she agrees with all of this. She told me she has not felt passion with me ever since we started dating(ouch). I know the last couple years have been hard as I feel like we have become comfortabl in our marriage and either of us have really worked on it. We have always had a bit of a problem with sex. Now we had good sex we were both fulfilled but I guess it wasnt enough. I made sure I worked hard to ensure my wife could stay home with our kids and was proud to do so. I feel so hurt and confused I knew we both werent happy but felt like we would get out of the rut. Since she has told me its been hard on both of so much and I am trying to still support her and her feelings. I feel like tthe root of how she is feeling is when we were first married I fooled around on her with her best friend. Her best friend she knew was like this but still trusted her and me. I fessed up and told her what happened . we didnt actually have sex but I felt so horrible for what I did to her and I still feel bad about it. I have never cheated or would cheat on her although it has crossed my mind. I have been faithful to her since then and I know my indescretion was horrible. We talked and saw a councillor once for the problem and wegot married young and she didnt want to divorce cause she didnt want to look like a failure. I think she has put it deep in herself and never forgave me for it. I am not sure if she wants to even really try to work on our marriage she said she didnt know if I was the one and only for the last 10 years. She has never cheated on me and I feel our marriage has turned us into the best friends/parents in the world. We have great kids together and we are such a good team together for them and our friends. I am going through this but still trying to be there emotionally for her cause she needs upport to. I realize there is probably no hope for us and am gonna have a long raod of recovery ahead of me. Any advice would be appreciated as long as its constructive.