If she is planning on splitting as soon as the kids are out of high school, then why does it matter to her what you do? And why does it matter to you what she thinks? And much more importantly, why are you still with somebody who is planning to leave you????The thought that came to my mind is in the past she’s threatened to part ways as soon as the kids are out of high school. Like maybe she doesn’t want permanent his/her tattoos. I would be wondering if she was planning an exit in a couple years. She also blew a head gasket after I shaved my head a few years back saying she’d be embarrassed to be around me. She’s weird that way.