Good thing you came here!
Because now we are telling you you have a bigger problem than a tattoo!
Because now we are telling you you have a bigger problem than a tattoo!
The first thing to do is just go get a tattoo, what u want, where you want. Stop making it a discussion. Just come home with a tatto. Today. Put a halt to the dramaIt sounds like to me, since I'm cynical, is that she wanted a tattoo from a specific artist and you're getting the tattoo with her prevents her from seeing that artist personally. It sounds like she's at risk of an affair, if she already hasn't stepped out on you.
Just tell her that you agree that tattoos should be meaningful. You'll get one that has meaning to you and she can have one that is meaningful to her.
She wants to keep ownership of you and the image you project while she's still with you.The thought that came to my mind is in the past she’s threatened to part ways as soon as the kids are out of high school. Like maybe she doesn’t want permanent his/her tattoos. I would be wondering if she was planning an exit in a couple years. She also blew a head gasket after I shaved my head a few years back saying she’d be embarrassed to be around me. She’s weird that way.
But you're NOT on the same page.I’m irritated by the fact that I thought “okay we’re on the same page,” then okay I’m getting one but it’s not okay for you and I really don’t care what you think. That’s my problem. If it goes away as a midlife thing and nothing transpires I’m good with that. I thought we were on the same frequency. Where’s our unity on a subject? It’s okay for me but not you. I’d rather her stick to our original mutual plan when she denied me almost 30 years ago.
Although both of you have a right to express an opinion about getting something like a tattoo neither has the right to deny the other one permission. It would be great if you came to agreement, but if she is going to take such a hard line and be hypocritical about it you should just go and get it done. You've had a meaningful design in mind for a long time, so that addresses her concern on that front. Then just make sure you keep it work safe to comply with whatever rules you have to follow.I’ve had an idea for more than 30 years that means a lot to me. The artist she picked out for her is a female who did the first one for her sister.
I disagree. My wife got her first tattoo at 50. She now has three and they are all vey dainty and feminine. I find them quite sexy. She got her latest one just the other day when I was getting a new tattoo. While I was laying on the table she worked with one of the other artists and got one of her own.A tattoo on a 48-year-old woman is a very bad idea. Tattoos are not sexy at that age but masculine. Tell her to take a 90 day grace period to think it thru. Better yet, go on amazon and purchase the tattoo stickers. Cost - about 15 bucks. They are very much like the real thing. Look really good but wash off in a week.
When she has an urge for a tat, slap on a decal. Plus with the decals, you are not stuck with the same tat which people get bored of. W/ these decals you can get the feel for what it's like. The urge for the real thing will probably die out over time.
She's on the tat kick. Don't do it. You shouldn't get one either.
I heard someone say the new tat is not having a tat. Many many women get the stupidest things plastered on their bodies. It's almost comical.
Sounds like being a prison guard at a TDCJ unit.If your job seriously has a policy on tattoos then you are certainly going to have to get one in a place that no one will ever see it except your wife. She's being awfully condescending to you acting like you couldn't possibly choose a meaningful tattoo. But really what's the point of having one if no one's going to see it and if your job forbids them, then I would imagine they're having a hell of a time hiring younger folks under the age of 50.
Sorry mistook what you wrote, thought it was ‘ a velvet covered prick’. 😂I read one marriage counselor that described the ideal male as a velvet covered brick. As hard as stone to the outside world, but somebody whom a woman was confident that she could hug when she wanted to.
In its proper context, there is nothing wrong with romance and chivalry. However, the real meanings of those have been twisted by those wanting a matriarchal world.
It remains a mystery to me as well. I still haven't read a single word by the OP to explain why he's with this controlling woman.The fact that she feels so entitled to behave this way towards you says ALOT about your marriage and relationship, and her as a person.
And that you have allowed it is a complete mystery to me.
(1) I hope this isn't the same Tattoo "artist" mentioned in another thread by a poster whose WW ran off with a married Tattoo "artist" until the AP's wife reminded him that she paid for his health insurance. He also had the WW sister and mom going to him. Whether than for more than body art, who knows?Me and my wife have been married nearly 30 years. I am 51 years old and she is 48. Early in the marriage I told her I wanted to get a tattoo and immediately got a “no” because she doesn’t believe in them and that it’s against God per the Bible. So I respected her wishes and never got one. She doesn’t have any either. We’ll fast forward to present day 2021. My wife’s sisters recently got tattoos as did one of her friends. Out of the blue she told me that she wants to get a tattoo and have had a meaningful design that she’s had for a long time in case she changed her views. She even said she wants it on her right wrist. I’m like “What happened to you being against them?” She stated that she’s changed her views and realized they are not bad or trashy. I suggested both of us get a couple tattoo together. It would be our first. I sensed reluctance when she agreed. We contacted an artist after finding a design. She would repeatedly remind me my job has a tattoo policy and wearing long sleeve’s or bandages in Texas heat would get old. Well when the subject would always change when I bring it up, she sat me down and told me only wants one tattoo and only the design she picked out and she’s been planning this for a long time and it was going to be a sister thing because her sister wants a second. I told her well then I’ll get one for me and her reply was get this, “ABSOLUTELY NOT!” She tried to explain tattoos have to be meaningful, not everyone should have one and I won’t look right with a tattoo because of my personality. She said it would be like our pastor or a sweet grandfather getting one which wouldn’t be right. This double standard angers me and I need suggestions soon. She plans to get one very soon as a Christmas gift to herself.
I won’t look right with a tattoo because of my personality. She said it would be like our pastor or a sweet grandfather getting one which wouldn’t be right.
This caught my attention. It's not unusual to run into men who act like this. Like their wife is some sainted virgin Who never has an interesting thought. The Madonna / ***** complex it's called. This is the first time I have seen that flipped on a man, husband, father. You fill those roles in her life so you can't possibly be the kind of sexy interesting man who shaves his head or has a tattoo.She also blew a head gasket after I shaved my head a few years back
her sister has like a grasshopper looking thing representing rheumatoid arthritis.