I'm a husband and father of two. I-and I assume my wife feels the same-am miserable in a 15 year marriage. It's never been what I would call good. Ironically, I was the one who saw that things would only get worse without counseling. At one point she agreed to go into counseling but backed out. Our relationship is more of a lifestyle and financial arrangement than a marriage. We tolerate each other and avoid conflict and confrontation. We have no intimacy-haven't had sex in over a year. I no longer desire her physically, due in part to her severe obesity-which she refuses to do anything about-and in part due to the erosion of the relationship and what I perceive to be her meanness and hostility. I know I share a portion of the decline and erosion of the relationship. I'm at the point in my life that I just want to end what I would call a perpetual bad dream and move on & try to find love with someone else. If she were to ask me if I would marry her again, with the knowledge that our two wonderful children would not be, I would still say no. I want to do what's right, but I believe that means enduring the next 10-14 years in misery.