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that's been betrayed

hit the bitter stage yet?

I'm finding I am intolerable of the threads in the infidelity section when it's a cheater asking for help.


I think I might have to keep away from that area for a bit- for fear of letting myself go to town on a keyboard.


I don't want to be like this....but I can't seem to control it now.

argh...tell me I'm normal :scratchhead:
 

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You're normal babe.

Thing is, you can't do anything about it. Just ride it out.

You can try, but it'll keep coming back. Let it take it's course.

You're a step closer to better days :)

Hope you have a better tomorrow.
 

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I've never been to that section for just that reason. I can't understand why anyone would cheat when it is so easy to end the relationship first.
 

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that's been betrayed

hit the bitter stage yet?

I'm finding I am intolerable of the threads in the infidelity section when it's a cheater asking for help.


I think I might have to keep away from that area for a bit- for fear of letting myself go to town on a keyboard.


I don't want to be like this....but I can't seem to control it now.

argh...tell me I'm normal :scratchhead:
I was bitter toward cheaters, before I became the victim (and I use that word loosely) of a cheater.

And, I think that's normal.

To me, sympathizing with a cheater and justifying their actions is what's not normal.

In fact, it's enabling.

And stupid.
 

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Well, he!! You better be normal, because I feel the same way!! So if your not normal it means I'm not!! And I happen to know for a fact that I'm normal, because the voices in my head said so!!!! Lol
 

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Love your quote, Can't Believe.

And if I was betrayed, no way in heck I could read that section either. I do suspect an EA or two, but had plenty of other reasons to divorce so I've decided not to care, all the more reason for me to stay off that board.
 

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Do the cheaters ever come and read these sections? Probably not!

If you've been betrayed and he/she's remorseful and want to stay in the marriage, count yourself amongst the privileged here. Many people were betrayed and left and that is a much more heinous pain.

In the meantime, yes you can feel free to fantasize that one day they will know your pain and understand.
 

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Do the cheaters ever come and read these sections? Probably not!

If you've been betrayed and he/she's remorseful and want to stay in the marriage, count yourself amongst the privileged here. Many people were betrayed and left and that is a much more heinous pain.

In the meantime, yes you can feel free to fantasize that one day they will know your pain and understand.
I'm not sure I agree that winning back a wayward spouse is a "privilege".

Being betrayed and abandoned is painful.

But...

Realizing who you are and what you're worth is nothing like heinous.
 

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Realizing who you are and what you're worth is nothing like heinous.
You're absolutely right about that.

How do you cope with the feelings of rejection?

I'm not sure I agree that winning back a wayward spouse is a "privilege".
Maybe privilege is the wrong choice of word. I just meant many people would like the chance to keep their families intact. Having a spouse leave and spurn reconciliation feels like rock bottom.
 
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