Do you think it is possible to achieve happiness in marriage, or life, without love? My wife struggles with "loving" others -- me, our kids. She's not a bad person, and she treats us reasonably well. But, she admits that she struggles with loving us. She had a difficult childhood, so I understand why she has the issues she does with loving/trusting others. For the first 12 years of our marriage, I tried to focus on the good things -- and we definitely have some good times together. Then, a year ago, I found out the she had an affair (which had ended by the time I found out about it). It was painful, but not really surprising. We are working on our marriage, and have made some good progress on better communication and other things that led to the affair. But now, the "love" thing is starting to bother me more than it did before. I still love her dearly, but I know that love doesn't, and probably won't ever, make sense to her. Now, I am craving to be loved like I haven't before. Do you think it is possible for me to get past this, and achieve happiness without true love for the rest of my life?