Just my thoughts, but I honestly think that having surgery is so drastic, and you cant change your body shape. If she is a stocky build then even if she lost a bit of weight its not going to make her look like the 20 year old porn stars.She has also had 4 children, you cant turn back time. She already works out 3 times a week, so she clearly wants to keep fit.Yes, it's your problem, but what I don't understand is how do you want to solve this problem?
You don't want to divorce or break your wife's heart.
I don't understand why you posted here? To gain support?
I think your problem started at the beginning of your marriage by marrying someone who was not your ideal. That was a big mistake. Did you think her body wasn't going to change?
Has she expressed her desire to change her body? I mean having plastic surgery. I'm someone who's terrified of anesthesia, but I'm honest and I'd like to change a few things about my body and I've been researching lately. I'm not sure if that's a possibility, but maybe it could be an option that's going to benefit both of you. You can ask her if she's interested and go from there.
It's sad for both of you. If I were you I'd try to look into options about losing weight and reshaping the skin. How does she feel about her body? I don't like the idea of giving up and suffering where there could be something you both can do about it.
What do you want to do? What do you think she can do about it?
People have died having liposuction and other cosmetic operations. Others have been maimed for life. Does he want to risk that? I would also think that if he asked her she would be very hurt, unstandably.
We all age, even him. He isnt the virile young stud he thinks he was and still thinks he is, we all age, we all get grey hair and go bald and get wrinkles. We all get old and dont look as we did in our 20's even if people do have some cosmetic operations or proceedures. They still age.