He's just rewriting history with "I never loved you" to avoid taking responsibility for his low-self esteem and misery. Going to another family (your brother's) and breaking them up too!? Moron is right! Although, reconciliation for your brother shouldn't be to hard for them, because your husband made the super-special-minded decision to cheat through the family tree... You can Eff up his game plan for that relationship by doing the 180 with your brother and spending time together sharing secrets and ranting about your husband.
As for your question..... A good man doesn't let his woman do the yard work unless she asks to join. A good man doesn't go against bro code and try to f*ck a guy's girl. And a good would rather beat himself up and work on his faults instead of cheat, lie, or leave the marriage unfinished. If he's unhappy now he's going to remain unhappy when no one wants who he has become.
As for your question..... A good man doesn't let his woman do the yard work unless she asks to join. A good man doesn't go against bro code and try to f*ck a guy's girl. And a good would rather beat himself up and work on his faults instead of cheat, lie, or leave the marriage unfinished. If he's unhappy now he's going to remain unhappy when no one wants who he has become.