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A tiny back history so you know my situation. My wife cheated on me with an ex prior to our engagement, during our engagement, and after our marriage (6 weeks after marriage). I didnt find out about any of these until after we were married. I was never given a choice. I found out about the EA well before the PA and i gave her two chances over a 3 month period to stop (I then discovered the PA). I didn't rug sweep it, I wasnt completely Mr. Nice Guy, but she had her chances. So I'm divorcing her. My divorce will be final in January. I'm 30.
I know me and I know I won't be ready for 9 - 18 months to seriously date anyone. I need to work on me. My friends are all fine with this that I shouldn't date anyone. I do however have quite a sexual history, as well as most of them (theyre mostly all married now and are faithful good wives/husbands), but they keep trying to set me up with people who know my situation and just want casual sex.
I believe that my morals and character are very strong. I've never cheated on any GF or my STBXW. I keep telling my friends that even though I know there is no chance for reconciliation and that I am getting divorced that I'm not going to sleep with anyone or talk with anyone because in my mind I'm still married and should behave like a married man. All of my friends think I am a moron because my marriage is done and its time to get back on the horse etc, it just doesn't make sense to me.
how do you guys feel about this? have any of you had sex with other people while going through a divorce? Am I completely off base to still value my vows to be faithful until I am legally single again?
I know me and I know I won't be ready for 9 - 18 months to seriously date anyone. I need to work on me. My friends are all fine with this that I shouldn't date anyone. I do however have quite a sexual history, as well as most of them (theyre mostly all married now and are faithful good wives/husbands), but they keep trying to set me up with people who know my situation and just want casual sex.
I believe that my morals and character are very strong. I've never cheated on any GF or my STBXW. I keep telling my friends that even though I know there is no chance for reconciliation and that I am getting divorced that I'm not going to sleep with anyone or talk with anyone because in my mind I'm still married and should behave like a married man. All of my friends think I am a moron because my marriage is done and its time to get back on the horse etc, it just doesn't make sense to me.
how do you guys feel about this? have any of you had sex with other people while going through a divorce? Am I completely off base to still value my vows to be faithful until I am legally single again?