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So I really need some help and advice on how to deal with my fiancee's daughter. I've met her a few times and she's not very old. Almost 5. Anyways, I...honestly don't want anything to do with her. I understand she's his blood, his child, and to be with him I need to accept her. My issue's are purely selfish and are as follows:
-I'm jealous I wasn't the first person to give him a child. And a lot of that jealousy has turned into resentment.
-I don't like having exes be a part of the new relationship. On either side and her mother is clearly not going anywhere. I also refuse, flat out, refuse to have my income go towards child support.
-They are in the middle of a custody battle. His mother constantly guilt trips him over....life, but uses his daughter against him to try and drive a wedge between he and I. After she slams things in his face, he becomes moody and withdrawn. Which used to cause fights. Now I just accept it and try to help him with his emotions.
So that's pretty much what it is. I recognize that the issues I have with him having a child already are selfish and stem from massive jealousy issues. But I NEED help dealing with it. I'm very open with him about my feelings of jealousy and what is now manifesting into resentment towards his child. And he's very open with me and understands my side/feelings. However, I feel like I can and should do better with my feelings for her sake. His daughter I mean. None of this is her fault....I just need any help I can get.
*Please and thank you.*:confused:
 
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