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I'm a SaHM. We're broke, I have no savings, we live an expensive city, I'm broken. I don't know what job I want but clearly need one. I was doing ok when we were divorcing because of the affair and differences, I'm not ok we are divorcing because he doesn't love me now. Or that people are standing on the sideline and letting this happen. It makes me feel that he is right, I'm not an attractive or wanted person. I feel like **** today. Someone tell me I can be OK, I can get a good job and support myself and my child and that somehow it's be fine. Anyone had to rebuild from scratch with little family support? You OK now? I know I'm partly accountable for the failure of this relationship but someone tell me this is not my fault! That I didn't deserve this.
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You will be okay! You didn't and don't deserve to be cheated on. You will find a job and be able to support yourself.

Today is a bad day, tomorrow is a new day. Allow yourself to feel, grieve and cry. You are allowed. Support doesn't always come from family...there are others out there waiting to support and help you. Community resources, help groups, friends, it's there... just reach out and know it is okay to do that, okay to need help. It doesn't make you any less of a person to need and accept help.
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life101
You will be OK. There's light at the end of every tunnel. Don't let the act of a selfish person keep you hostage forever, don't let them win. Have faith in yourself and you will come out of this ordeal a better person.
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ChknNoodleSoup said:
I'm a SaHM. We're broke, I have no savings, we live an expensive city, I'm broken. I don't know what job I want but clearly need one. I was doing ok when we were divorcing because of the affair and differences, I'm not ok we are divorcing because he doesn't love me now. Or that people are standing on the sideline and letting this happen. It makes me feel that he is right, I'm not an attractive or wanted person. I feel like **** today. Someone tell me I can be OK, I can get a good job and support myself and my child and that somehow it's be fine. Anyone had to rebuild from scratch with little family support? You OK now? I know I'm partly accountable for the failure of this relationship but someone tell me this is not my fault! That I didn't deserve this.
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You are going to be ok. You can and will get a good job and be able to take care of your child.
Every person holds value, do not let the horrible act of one person damage your self worth.
His cheating is not and never will be your fault. He made that choice.
Hold your head up and focus on heading to where you want your life to be for you and your child.
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his infidelity doesn't make you less of a person. You will survive this, yes it hurts, somedays the pain is just unbearable but you will get through this.

You will find work and you will find happiness. hang in there time is your friend.
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ChknNoodleSoup said:
I'm a SaHM. We're broke, I have no savings, we live an expensive city, I'm broken. I don't know what job I want but clearly need one. I was doing ok when we were divorcing because of the affair and differences, I'm not ok we are divorcing because he doesn't love me now. Or that people are standing on the sideline and letting this happen. It makes me feel that he is right, I'm not an attractive or wanted person. I feel like **** today. Someone tell me I can be OK, I can get a good job and support myself and my child and that somehow it's be fine. Anyone had to rebuild from scratch with little family support? You OK now? I know I'm partly accountable for the failure of this relationship but someone tell me this is not my fault! That I didn't deserve this.
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I know its really hard for you right now but tomorrow will come and you will get up and you will focus on what needs to be done. Right now your child is the most important thing there is and you need to keep your head in the right place for him/her. I am one that doesnt have a lot of family support so I depend on my friends alot, AND the people here at TAM. I have met some really caring and understanding people here and they have helped me tremendously (I've only been here a couple of months).

When you are feeling weak come vent to us, someone will always be near to show you there is hope!

Chin up! :)
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naga75
you may be partly accountable for the demise of your relationship, but you are in no way responsible for his decision to betray you.
AT ALL.
dont listen to that little voice that tells you you are or may be...IT LIES.
you will be okay.
you can support yourself and your child.
my mom did it.
my sister did it.
lots of women do it.
you can too.
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