My girlfriend had a fling with a guy we both work with, before we were even dating. It's a large company that frowns heavily on relationships within the workplace.
For that reason, no one knows that we are together. She had a fling with this other guy, who is very flirty, and then remained friends afterwards.
He still brings her candy and asks her to go to lunch or have coffee. She has started telling him that she's seeing a guy. However, it sucks to witness it and wonder what I should do about it.
She's not flirting back, but she does accept the candy, respond to text/facebook messages. Admittedly, I liked the guy before I became the BF. She tells me when he texts or Facebooks her. I don't have any issues with the workplace interactions. It's nothing over the top that I would consider harassment.
She asked if I cared if they had coffee before work started one day. I was honest and told her that I understand the situation is odd, but I find it disrespectful. I don't have a problem with her having guy friends, I just don't want her hanging out with guys she has previously been naked with.
She says she's not interested and won't go if I don't want her to, but she doesn't want to make the workplace awkward between her and her friend.
I don't want her to interact with this guy unless it incidentally happens at work. However, I want her to reach that decision on her own... I don't think I should tell her to just blow this guy off, because I don't want to be the kind of guy who decides who his GF can hang out with.
At one point, I said I wouldn't hang out with any of my exes because I find that disrespectful to her.
I'd rather she refused the gifts and didn't respond to texts or facebook messages from the guy.. because he'll just keep leaving that door open
Am I being ridiculous?
Is there a good/better way to go about this?
For that reason, no one knows that we are together. She had a fling with this other guy, who is very flirty, and then remained friends afterwards.
He still brings her candy and asks her to go to lunch or have coffee. She has started telling him that she's seeing a guy. However, it sucks to witness it and wonder what I should do about it.
She's not flirting back, but she does accept the candy, respond to text/facebook messages. Admittedly, I liked the guy before I became the BF. She tells me when he texts or Facebooks her. I don't have any issues with the workplace interactions. It's nothing over the top that I would consider harassment.
She asked if I cared if they had coffee before work started one day. I was honest and told her that I understand the situation is odd, but I find it disrespectful. I don't have a problem with her having guy friends, I just don't want her hanging out with guys she has previously been naked with.
She says she's not interested and won't go if I don't want her to, but she doesn't want to make the workplace awkward between her and her friend.
I don't want her to interact with this guy unless it incidentally happens at work. However, I want her to reach that decision on her own... I don't think I should tell her to just blow this guy off, because I don't want to be the kind of guy who decides who his GF can hang out with.
At one point, I said I wouldn't hang out with any of my exes because I find that disrespectful to her.
I'd rather she refused the gifts and didn't respond to texts or facebook messages from the guy.. because he'll just keep leaving that door open
Am I being ridiculous?
Is there a good/better way to go about this?