Depends how serious you two are.
But I think one of you should get anew job, and that she should stop all interactions with this man.
But I think one of you should get anew job, and that she should stop all interactions with this man.
So basically what your asking for is justification? It's not goi g to happen. There's a reason why all the posters are saying the same thing.I would almost like it if someone could explain to me that I'm being ridiculous. I think id be happy if someone could convince me that Im over reacting. i just think this is like playing with fire.
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i don't think its the friendship with the opposite sex causes infidelity, its the level of self-control within yourself. Back to the point dkaffee you seem to be quite insecure and women don't like that kind of behavior. You might achieve a self-fulfilling prophecy by worrying too muchI don't see anything wrong here. The only thing she's accepting is candy. Yet she tells you everything and is truthful.
I'm very against friendships of the opposite sex, but I do think your overreacting here. Your not even engaged here. There is nothing going on outside of work.
I'mInLoveWithMyHubby you don't need to dump your friendships withe the opposite sex, so long you are faithful and have a good distance in between you will be fine. I had a platonic friendship with a women (b) while im dating (and later married), my gf (and later w) had allowed me to have contact with b (sort of a open relationship/marriage).I did not give up my male friendships until I was married. I am faithful to my husband and he faithful to me. He works with other women. There is no way he could possibly not talk to them since he's their boss. My husband and his staff are always bringing in goodies for each other. I'll stop by and drop goodies off at his office as well.
\I'll stop by and drop goodies off at his office as well.
:iagree: Just curious as to who ended the fling and why is she just telling him now if you've been together for a year?He WILL bug off , if she does not encourage him. She might think she is just being nice.. but it is leaving the impression with this guy that she is still emotionally available, or that there would be hope to start it up again.
If you don't want her to hang out with this guy who's obviously trying to have another fling with her, again, then you need to stop acting soft and TELL her. If she respects you, then she'll understand.She asked if I cared if they had coffee before work started one day. I was honest and told her that I understand the situation is odd, but I find it disrespectful. I don't have a problem with her having guy friends, I just don't want her hanging out with guys she has previously been naked with.
She says she's not interested and won't go if I don't want her to, but she doesn't want to make the workplace awkward between her and her friend.
I don't want her to interact with this guy unless it incidentally happens at work. However, I want her to reach that decision on her own... I don't think I should tell her to just blow this guy off, because I don't want to be the kind of guy who decides who his GF can hang out with.
Interesting irony. My fiance offered that he would respond to his EA anyway I liked, he would send whatever message I wrote verbatim. I took the offer. but on another message board (of women), I was scolded for getting WAY too involved. You see, I was showing my insecurity, according to these ladies.I think you need to stand up and be counted - meaning tell her not to be buddies with him.
You've been together a year and he doesn't know she's now in a long term committed relationship?
I think up to now you've been failing a big test from her - she offered to cut him off - and you didn't take her up on it. IF you had that would have shown your deeper interest in her, and your desire to fend off other males. this guy is a former lover of her's who still is chasing her, and putting time and energy into flirting with her , meeting up, buying her things.
Dude - this guy is laying the ground work for future hookups, not being a buddy.