For many years ( been married 25+) in our marriage, my wife repressed her sexuality, refused to adventure into much, denied her own wants, and otherwise was repressive.
I have had a lot of negative reinforcement during this time.. avoiding getting cum on her, she was repulsed by oral sex ( on me), didn't know what she wanted, or other hangups.
Now, that's changed... but I'm having a hard time no longer having those things in my head... I've become conditioned to avoiding things, doubting her 'want' to enjoy, etc.
How do I "unlearn" these things? I find they're distracting and interfere with both what my wife wants and what I want. Now she WANTS me to cum while she's giving me a BJ... Instead of doing my utmost to make sure I don't. I am just having a hard time unlearning a decades old self imposed inhibition - and many others.
I have had a lot of negative reinforcement during this time.. avoiding getting cum on her, she was repulsed by oral sex ( on me), didn't know what she wanted, or other hangups.
Now, that's changed... but I'm having a hard time no longer having those things in my head... I've become conditioned to avoiding things, doubting her 'want' to enjoy, etc.
How do I "unlearn" these things? I find they're distracting and interfere with both what my wife wants and what I want. Now she WANTS me to cum while she's giving me a BJ... Instead of doing my utmost to make sure I don't. I am just having a hard time unlearning a decades old self imposed inhibition - and many others.