@ 5 years ago a guy asked me if he could call me. His wife wanted a separation and had moved out. Sure enough once he checked the phone bill it was her boss. They had 2 young kids. Always check the phone bill!
He was in shock like most upfront. Wondering how he could save his marriage, etc. I was pretty abrupt (imagine that 😎). Like most he tried talking to her. Even her therapist told her she was making a huge mistake (to her credit for a therapist).
A short time later one of his friends saw his wife and her AP out. That lit a fire. Luckily he had a great attorney and immediately filed for divorce. He sat his kids down and told them their mom had a boyfriend and they couldn’t be married anymore. Pretty sanitized. Told them who he was. Shockingly she’d already brought them around him. This is why I think the truth is so important. Kids aren’t stupid. Keeping them in the dark never gets you a damn thing.
Once he got his feet under him he ran the hardest no contact I’ve seen. Like most she wanted to be friends and was really pissed he’d told the kids. How dare he!!!! He cut of all contact except text, email kids and D only. I mean he went totally stone cold on her. Even blocked her family (wonder where he got that idea😎).
Then he got a letter from her AP’s wife. My friend contacted her upfront 😎The AP’s wife wrote a long letter about how their affair has impacted not only her life but her kids too. My friend forwarded that letter to all family and their friends 💥
More later. This was just the start 5 years ago.
He was in shock like most upfront. Wondering how he could save his marriage, etc. I was pretty abrupt (imagine that 😎). Like most he tried talking to her. Even her therapist told her she was making a huge mistake (to her credit for a therapist).
A short time later one of his friends saw his wife and her AP out. That lit a fire. Luckily he had a great attorney and immediately filed for divorce. He sat his kids down and told them their mom had a boyfriend and they couldn’t be married anymore. Pretty sanitized. Told them who he was. Shockingly she’d already brought them around him. This is why I think the truth is so important. Kids aren’t stupid. Keeping them in the dark never gets you a damn thing.
Once he got his feet under him he ran the hardest no contact I’ve seen. Like most she wanted to be friends and was really pissed he’d told the kids. How dare he!!!! He cut of all contact except text, email kids and D only. I mean he went totally stone cold on her. Even blocked her family (wonder where he got that idea😎).
Then he got a letter from her AP’s wife. My friend contacted her upfront 😎The AP’s wife wrote a long letter about how their affair has impacted not only her life but her kids too. My friend forwarded that letter to all family and their friends 💥
More later. This was just the start 5 years ago.
