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........or lay there and expect me read her mind.
My wife is a good woman, kind, loving, generous and faithful. Everything in that area is 100% but she never initiates anything spontaneous or passionate and has a very low sex drive.
Today, I cleaned the kitchen, fridge, freezer, recycled everything, garbages out, cat litter and put up all the Christmas decorations. My wife works on Sundays were as I do not. She gets home, immediately starts talking on the phone with her sister and parents, a daily thing and eats chips and dip, macaroni and cheese, not the healthiest choices considering her size. She brings me some chocolate squares and I say, being spontaneous, put that piece in your mouth and I will eat and kiss it out. She immediately says NO, and it breaks off in her mouth and she gives me the other piece. I felt somewhat rejected and I threw it in the garbage. She then hits me on the back of my head!? I didn't do anything back and told her she has a low unromantic drive and went upstairs.........
If my wife is actually in the mood, she comes to bed, and just puts her foot on mine or her arm against mine and just does nothing.......that's her way of initiating "us" time. If I'm half asleep, how am I supposed to get this signal? I have never shut her down by the way but she can always shut me down for many reasons and it's okay.
What else can I do here?
I'm tired of its always the man who has to change, never the woman. She's never at fault it seems and in the end, it's always the man who has to do something different to hopefully get some "us" time later. I thought marriage was 50 / 50?
My wife is a good woman, kind, loving, generous and faithful. Everything in that area is 100% but she never initiates anything spontaneous or passionate and has a very low sex drive.
Today, I cleaned the kitchen, fridge, freezer, recycled everything, garbages out, cat litter and put up all the Christmas decorations. My wife works on Sundays were as I do not. She gets home, immediately starts talking on the phone with her sister and parents, a daily thing and eats chips and dip, macaroni and cheese, not the healthiest choices considering her size. She brings me some chocolate squares and I say, being spontaneous, put that piece in your mouth and I will eat and kiss it out. She immediately says NO, and it breaks off in her mouth and she gives me the other piece. I felt somewhat rejected and I threw it in the garbage. She then hits me on the back of my head!? I didn't do anything back and told her she has a low unromantic drive and went upstairs.........
If my wife is actually in the mood, she comes to bed, and just puts her foot on mine or her arm against mine and just does nothing.......that's her way of initiating "us" time. If I'm half asleep, how am I supposed to get this signal? I have never shut her down by the way but she can always shut me down for many reasons and it's okay.
What else can I do here?
I'm tired of its always the man who has to change, never the woman. She's never at fault it seems and in the end, it's always the man who has to do something different to hopefully get some "us" time later. I thought marriage was 50 / 50?