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Right, what you are experiencing is likely the natural result of her slowly loosing attraction for you.

Roughly speaking in a relationship you have 2 hormones involved in 2 circuits. Oxytocin the bonding hormone associated with the feeling of connection and warm comfort built over time with one's partner.
Dopamine, the passion hormone associated with attraction, excitement, newness and victory.

During your unemployed period some behaviors that likely used to generate some dopamine in her ceased or diminished (confidence, assertiveness, physycal good looks, resources, social mastery). As a result her brain craves it and actively seeks it in the search for and interaction with potential sexual partners.

Her mind rationalizes this behavior however it can as long as it continues as it feeds a craving and provides a powerful high. In other words your wife is actively seeking sexual attention for dopamine while vigilant to maintain oxytocin with you at least for now as breaking this bond would be very painful for you both.

In order to begin addressing this issue you first need to get informed on the many details and then diligently act on that information.

There are 2 materials of note that I suggest:

Please read Married Man Sex life by Athol Kay and Women's Infidelity by Michelle Langley. They provide a great breakdown of what you are likely experiencing and good tools to remedy the situation.

Please come back with feedback once you have read the materials.
 
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