I don't even know if anyone can help me but I just need to vent. I'm 26 and my fiance is 27. We met 2 years ago and planned to get married next month in Mexico. Something low cost and simple. Several years back when I was in college, I did a lot of foolish things. This was before I met my husband. I was on a certain arrangement website and I would regularly sleep with wealthy men for money and gifts.
There was one man in particular who I saw early on. Very unattractive and obese. However, he gave me almost anything I asked for and treated me well. He could not maintain an erection through sex so I would normally jerk him off for pleasure and we would cuddle. Sometimes I'd sit on his face and ride his tongue but we never had vaginal sex with his penis. I was really disgusted by him but not because of his age, but because of his looks. He was sloppy and I'd feel uncomfortable with him in public. He told me about his wife and personal problems. I eventually connected with some men that were more my type so I started to brush him off until he got the message.
Eventually I stopped living that life when I got closer to graduation. A lot of girls did it so it didn't bother me. So fast forward to when I met the man I'm with now, he's everything I could ever want in a man. Attractive, funny, great career, and religious. We dated but never had sex. I found Christ through him. I told him that I wanted to wait until marriage to sleep with him because I wanted it to feel special. He agreed and the next week, presented me with an engagement ring.
Last year on his birthday, he invited me to meet his parents. I walked in and instantly recognized the man at the table. It was the man I was with back in college, his father! I felt like I saw a ghost but tried to act normal. I pretended to meet him for the first time. He had a big grin on his face and continued to smile too much at the table. I don't think my fiance noticed anything but I told him midway through that I felt ill and wanted to go home. I've seen his father several times since then and he'd always make smart remarks around me. My fiance told him that we were waiting until marriage for sex and his father burst out laughing. It's almost like he was torturing me and I felt humiliated.
This past November, I was at their home for Thanksgiving. I was alone in the kitchen and his father came in. He whispered that he wanted to restart what we had. I ignored him and walked out. Since then, he made remarks about wanting me. I really didn't know what to do. I didn't want to lose my man. This past holiday, he told me that if I lay with him one last time, he would stop bothering me. He swore to God. I thought it over and we did it. He got a motel and I pleasured him like before. I really believed that he wouldn't bother me again but since then, every time we are alone, he tells me he wants me again. He's acting more aggressive too.
Two days ago, he called me and told me that if I don't sleep with him again, he will tell his son everything. I didn't respond and just hung up. I haven't left the house since. I haven't been sleeping and I feel suicidal. Every time something good happens in my life, something ruins it. My fiance has no idea I was that kind of girl back then. He has no idea I was with his father. I'm sure his mother doesn't know what her husband was doing either. I really just don't know what to do. No matter if I tell it or he tells it, my fiance will leave me. There is no way out of this. I'm tired of starting over and I really thought this would be it. I feel like there is no answer but I just want guidance if anyone can help.