It really sounds like you struggle with anxiety and extreme insecurities. I would highly suggest to continue seeking medical treatment and see a counselor.... I am afraid this level of anxiety and insecurity is going to tear your marriage apart.I know I did not say "cheater". I was speaking about jobs in education and did not say cheater.
I did see my primary care dr. who is suspecting thryoid issues since my mood changed so quickly and I've lost 15 pounds in 12 weeks. I also have signs of hyperthryoidism. I'm actually praying for a bad thyroid because my mood is x10 worse than any time in my life and it happened overnight.
I am also now taking an antianxiety med, seeing GYN for hormone issues, and therapist.
I get that I'm insecure at this time. I see it. I admit it. I don't get the piling on. I am not happy that I am doing any of this and I DON"T like that I am doing it.
I can see this happening very easily. Also, it could be his way of giving her a heads up.That guy at work who made that comment could be a back biter who secretly doesn't even like your husband very well and thought it would be funny to get dangerously close to the truth.
I don't know. When I was at my old job, one of bosses joked about me and some dude who worked in another department who I had worked with for a day, and said to me "Oh you and so and so like each other." I blushed because it made me extremely uncomfortable. There was no validity in it. Boss then said "Oh so and so blushed too when I said that to him." I muttered "perhaps that's because you made him uncomfortable too." Could be similar? Inappropriate comment that is off base but makes you super uncomfortable because it's inappropriate/over the line/unprofessional? I could see that happening.I can see this happening very easily. Also, it could be his way of giving her a heads up.
And, why did her husband turn red and say nothing. Something's afoot.