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Hey all,
The latest development is that I have gotten in touch with my anger. The love for my H is still there (this morning he called me his ex-partner for the first time) but I am so mad. He has been moving out this weekend, taking things that aren't his to take without asking.
Acting SO FINAL about this, like "when I'm in a new relationship are you going to still think we can work things out?" ad wanting to just write me a cheque and be done with all our "arguing".
I get his need for space but today he said it's the reason for the breakup (reason # 7 at least) -- he never felt like he could have his own space in our home. Why didn't he ever ask?!!!!?
And he's moved into a communal house where there are shared suppers and so it's all cozy and homelike, and he says he can't take our daughter to school tomorrow morning (it the only childcare/contact he's had with her in three weeks) because supper at the new house is served early and so he wants to go to work early.
Talk about putting your new life first, over your daughter. I am SO ANGRY.
Why is he doing this?
I have probably gone about things wrong, by being honest with him about my belief in reconciliation.
How do I do a 180 with kids? It seems impossible to have no contact.
The latest development is that I have gotten in touch with my anger. The love for my H is still there (this morning he called me his ex-partner for the first time) but I am so mad. He has been moving out this weekend, taking things that aren't his to take without asking.
Acting SO FINAL about this, like "when I'm in a new relationship are you going to still think we can work things out?" ad wanting to just write me a cheque and be done with all our "arguing".
I get his need for space but today he said it's the reason for the breakup (reason # 7 at least) -- he never felt like he could have his own space in our home. Why didn't he ever ask?!!!!?
And he's moved into a communal house where there are shared suppers and so it's all cozy and homelike, and he says he can't take our daughter to school tomorrow morning (it the only childcare/contact he's had with her in three weeks) because supper at the new house is served early and so he wants to go to work early.
Talk about putting your new life first, over your daughter. I am SO ANGRY.
Why is he doing this?
I have probably gone about things wrong, by being honest with him about my belief in reconciliation.
How do I do a 180 with kids? It seems impossible to have no contact.