Check her phone records to see how often she texts and calls these guys.
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found some text messages
I looked at the future wife's texts the other night and didn't like what I read. Back story, been together for 8 years getting married this spring. She works in the oil trade, all men and is in the military, almost all men.
So basically one text was from a guy that was complaining about being sore, she jokes I don't want to know, he asks for a message then with naked in parathasies. She said I don't think so, then went on to say how he thinks sex is like work, she replied it wasn't like that with me.
The next to a coworker in the field, small talk then about dinner and things better late then never, not a big deal but lots of smiley faces which I have never her seen her do in our texts. again this one not a big deal.
So I confront her late that night, she says she is not having an affair and that they were joking. I told her I was very uncomfortable with it all. Next day didn't hear anything, which I thought she would at least see if I was okay, When she gets home from work I told her that I was still very uncomfortable with the first text, she then said the guy had a dream that they were together and that she was just giving him a hard time..... That to me is what is bothering me more and more. That is the most used excuse in the world. Wish I wouldn't have confronted her and just followed the text more to see what is really was.
So basically one text was from a guy that was complaining about being sore, she jokes I don't want to know, he asks for a message then with naked in parathasies. She said I don't think so, then went on to say how he thinks sex is like work, she replied it wasn't like that with me.
The next to a coworker in the field, small talk then about dinner and things better late then never, not a big deal but lots of smiley faces which I have never her seen her do in our texts. again this one not a big deal.
So I confront her late that night, she says she is not having an affair and that they were joking. I told her I was very uncomfortable with it all. Next day didn't hear anything, which I thought she would at least see if I was okay, When she gets home from work I told her that I was still very uncomfortable with the first text, she then said the guy had a dream that they were together and that she was just giving him a hard time..... That to me is what is bothering me more and more. That is the most used excuse in the world. Wish I wouldn't have confronted her and just followed the text more to see what is really was.
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her records are verizon, there is no report on calls or texts on it. Mine doesn't have it either
Does that really sound like something one would say if it was a dream?
You still can get the cell logs and see if it is danger to the marriage by counting the amount of texting going on.
Don't take any crap when it comes to protecting your marriage! You are not jelous or controlling or insecure. This sh1t happens all the time so don't stand for it.
You can't control her so don't try, but you can control what you will tolorate by finding a women that will except and respect the protection you have to offer.
Sounds over the top...I know, but I hear it time again here @ TAM and the end result is always the same "I didn't mean it to happen, he just kissed me and we had sex"
Don't take any crap when it comes to protecting your marriage! You are not jelous or controlling or insecure. This sh1t happens all the time so don't stand for it.
You can't control her so don't try, but you can control what you will tolorate by finding a women that will except and respect the protection you have to offer.
Sounds over the top...I know, but I hear it time again here @ TAM and the end result is always the same "I didn't mean it to happen, he just kissed me and we had sex"
You sure? I'm verizon and I can log on and see ph #'s texted and called.her records are verizon, there is no report on calls or texts on it. Mine doesn't have it either
Go online and get an itemized statement. Then compare them to her phone to see if shes deleting them.her records are verizon, there is no report on calls or texts on it. Mine doesn't have it either
the online statement should have a list of incoming and out going cell phone numbers. You won't get the text but just the cell numbers
This is your chance. Your ONE chance to set proper boundaries and to show her that you aren't willing to be married to someone who will not respect those boundaries. Now, what are you going to do with this one chance? From this moment forward you'll either be a doormat/joke or you'll be the man.
I would have to know her password and user name though.
Just wish we were on the same plan, hate to say it would very much like to mirror her phone to mine
Yeah I always tell some one else's gal I had a sexual dream about them. Yeah it was wet too, that's the ticket. :scratchhead:Does that really sound like something one would say if it was a dream?
That is the major thing that is bothering me, if she left it at just joking around that is one thing, but and I mean BUT.... when the dream excuse was used or came into play, that is what has me really messed up.
It's the beginning of an EA most likely.
She's not your wife yet? that's good.
She's not your wife yet? that's good.
Look here's the simple thing. If your gut tells you it's bs, then it's bs. You weren't born yesterday, call her on it. Tell her you don't believe it and you want to see her phone records to verify how much she text or calls other men. That's a boundary for you and you won't hang around if she needs to cross it.
Yep I know that the gut is usually right..... I just don't want it to be.
The problem is, because of her job you're going to have to live with her traveling with men without you for years to come. If the trust isn't there, then it's going to drive you insane. She has to be beyond reproach, and frankly, she's not. So every time she goes off to an oil field you're going to be sitting at home wondering if she's the rough neck pass around girl, and life at home alone is going to suck.
I'm with Verizonwireless also. As I understand it, as long as both phones are on the same account, for a nominal fee, they can go back and provide the texting records of the cell-number texted to or texted from, along with the date and the time of such texts.her records are verizon, there is no report on calls or texts on it. Mine doesn't have it either
And don't forget to check out her cell-phone calling activity as well. As with my case, it spoke absolute volumes!
When my Ex broke up with me, it was because of a text message. What I did to find out more about that man bothering my life...I added him in twitter (I present myself as a girl). Set him Up..But my wife now just knew about it (about the twitter thing) when I showed him a year after the marriage...
:iagree::smthumbup:This is your chance. Your ONE chance to set proper boundaries and to show her that you aren't willing to be married to someone who will not respect those boundaries. Now, what are you going to do with this one chance? From this moment forward you'll either be a doormat/joke or you'll be the man.
EXACTLY the right course of action!
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