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My wife and I have been married for 4 months and a few days ago I accidentally found/saw nude photos in an e-mail of her that she had sent to an ex when they first started dating as well as nude photos of him that he had sent her. I know she has a past just like I do. Hell, we have both been married before but out of sight, out of mind I guess.
I lover her more than anything and am well aware that she is with me and he is in the past. I almost didnt say anything to her because I am sure it was inadvertant. I just felt like I had to say something to her and be honest about how it made me feel that she still had things like that.
Now I know they were from before we were together but I still feel hurt, shocked, insecure, and inadequate. For example, his penis is larger than mine, she has told me she prefers me to be clean shaven and thats what the heading of one of his e-mails said. It said "I AM SMOOTH", and sure enough it was a smooth d**k pic of himself.
Finding these is hurtful. Especially since they were done shortly after they met as well. It was all laid out there with their introduction e-mail (they met on a dating site), their flirting back and forth, and then within a few days, there are these nude pictures. Also plans were discussed about him meeting her in a bar and then staying with him in his hotel afterward.
She and I met through the same site but it was weeks and weeks before we met, let alone talking the way they were and sending nude pictures. How should I feel? I know it was in the past but it slapped me in the face in the present. I am having a hard time getting images of them together out of my head or with the d**k I now have seen doing things. Also dealing with a few feelings now of how she was soo "fast" with him yet we did things slow. I am very happy about the slow though. It was the right way to do it I think. Are my feelings normal? Has anything similar happened to anyone else out there?
I lover her more than anything and am well aware that she is with me and he is in the past. I almost didnt say anything to her because I am sure it was inadvertant. I just felt like I had to say something to her and be honest about how it made me feel that she still had things like that.
Now I know they were from before we were together but I still feel hurt, shocked, insecure, and inadequate. For example, his penis is larger than mine, she has told me she prefers me to be clean shaven and thats what the heading of one of his e-mails said. It said "I AM SMOOTH", and sure enough it was a smooth d**k pic of himself.
Finding these is hurtful. Especially since they were done shortly after they met as well. It was all laid out there with their introduction e-mail (they met on a dating site), their flirting back and forth, and then within a few days, there are these nude pictures. Also plans were discussed about him meeting her in a bar and then staying with him in his hotel afterward.
She and I met through the same site but it was weeks and weeks before we met, let alone talking the way they were and sending nude pictures. How should I feel? I know it was in the past but it slapped me in the face in the present. I am having a hard time getting images of them together out of my head or with the d**k I now have seen doing things. Also dealing with a few feelings now of how she was soo "fast" with him yet we did things slow. I am very happy about the slow though. It was the right way to do it I think. Are my feelings normal? Has anything similar happened to anyone else out there?