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We are almost 2 years since D-Day, me being the WW. Anyways, we have both worked really hard on reconciling. We went to MC every week for 1.5 years and now go every two or three weeks. We both enjoy going because it keeps us focused on our marriage. Besides fixing the problems within our marriage, I have even dealt with the impact my family had on our marriage.
I understand as we approach & are in, the time frame my affair took place it will get difficult for him and he will have more triggers, etc. I will continue to be there and re-assure him that I have no intentions of being anywhere else but with him, even thought he may not want me since I was the one who caused the pain. I also continue, almost daily, that I'm well aware of my boundaries and will never cross them, specially now, knowing and feeling the pain I caused him and our marriage.
I know he will never trust me again, I get that, but I struggle with the fact that he hasn't be able to forgive me. I know there is no "normal" time frame in recovery, but can his struggle to forgive cause us to be in limbo. I feel as if we have hit a wall in recovery. Could this be why? Or am I being inpatient again?
I understand as we approach & are in, the time frame my affair took place it will get difficult for him and he will have more triggers, etc. I will continue to be there and re-assure him that I have no intentions of being anywhere else but with him, even thought he may not want me since I was the one who caused the pain. I also continue, almost daily, that I'm well aware of my boundaries and will never cross them, specially now, knowing and feeling the pain I caused him and our marriage.
I know he will never trust me again, I get that, but I struggle with the fact that he hasn't be able to forgive me. I know there is no "normal" time frame in recovery, but can his struggle to forgive cause us to be in limbo. I feel as if we have hit a wall in recovery. Could this be why? Or am I being inpatient again?