FOR MEN: What makes a woman sexy?

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Discussion Starter · 3 mo ago

At the risk of jacking a different thread, this question came up and it seemed worth exploring in more detail. There are certainly some broad assumptions out there about what men find attractive in women. However, "Sexy" is a bit more intangible. So, what makes a woman "sexy?" How universal is this perspective?
Thanks to @Affaircare for suggesting it.

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Divinely Favored

· #141 · 23 d ago

Thinking about the makeup thread.....

It does not include nose rings and peel and stick fake azz eye lashes. 🕷

That drops her attractiveness to me by 2 points and screams low self esteem issues.

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heather42

· #142 · 23 d ago

Divinely Favored said:
Thinking about the makeup thread.....

It does not include nose rings and peel and stick fake azz eye lashes. 🕷

That drops her attractiveness to me by 2 points and screams low self esteem issues.

I'll never understand nose rings. What happens when you have a cold? Yuck.

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Divinely Favored

· #143 · 23 d ago

heather42 said:
I'll never understand nose rings. What happens when you have a cold? Yuck.

Of you get in fight and get it yanked out. Then they will want plastic surgery to fix the torn nose.

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MattMatt

· #144 · 17 d ago

My wife was beautiful when I met her. Very pretty, long, wavy black hair. But what caught my attention was the way she knitted. It was utterly vicious and very determined. And very captivating.

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MattMatt

· #145 · 17 d ago

Julie's Husband said:
Physical aspects? They certainly can attract the first consideration, but the personality is what pulls it all together.

Along with the make up styles @Divinely Favored lists, tne physical aspect important to me is the voice. I grew up around women with "full" (?) voices. No squeaky voices or Daisy Duck high pitch stuff.

When a woman puts on a cutesy, artificial "little girl" voice I want to run, not walk, the other way.

Unless it's the cutesy little girl voice of Claire Crogan of Altered Images. 35 years later and her voice still grabs me.

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Griswold

· #146 · 17 d ago

Matt Matt - we will be needling you about your knitting fetish

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Julie's Husband

· #147 · 17 d ago

MattMatt said:
Unless it's the cutesy little girl voice of Claire Crogan of Altered Images. 35 years later and her voice still grabs me.

Ouch! This is one area that I'm a bit choosy and go for the fuller voice.

I tend to be, hmm, biased even in men's voices. I have a baritone down to basso profundo depending on how tense I am and jokingly say that many male singers sound castrati to me. 😉

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Griswold

· #148 · 17 d ago

Whenever my women friends get colds, and their voices start dropping , I start singing "Falling in Love Again" to them and calling them Marlene....

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MovingFrwrd

· #149 · 16 d ago

I'd say sexy is a partner who knows how to please and what they need to be pleased. i.e. CHEMISTRY. Preference, however is a whole different genre. Some like them big, some like them skinny. Figure it out for yourself with that. If you don't wake up in the morning wanting more, chances are you're looking somewhere else.

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aine

· #150 · 16 d ago

Mybabysgotit said:
In a nutshell, the more girly (female, dainty, femine, etc) a women is and acts, the more the man will be attracted to her.

Women will act in their feminine if their men act in their masculine. Too often the women has to act in her masculine cause the man abdicates his responsibility and goes to work, plays golf, drinks with his buddies and does little else unless he is looking for sex. Women will be feminine depending on how their man takes leadership and treats them. I have been acting in my masculine for years and am now told by my husband I am too independent, well buddy, you made me this way by being neglectful and not there when I needed you, so go figure. (Sorry for hijacking men's forum, interesting to see the feedback).

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Griswold

· #151 · 15 d ago

Aine - interesting point. I think working women, professional women etc have to take on a more hard edege attitude (I wont say "masculine" ) as necessary parts to their jobs. My wife has to ride herd on some very hard to manage people. Sweetness and light does not "get r done" as they say. In turn, learning how to use your "dominant" traits can bleed over into your home life. My wife is still not a hyper feminine person. I never expected that. But it took me a very long time to see that this sort of "dominance" play...stops at romance and sex. She is hard as nails. But in the bedroom, she expects/wants me to be in charge. I'm hardly Christian Gray. It's not about yelling / hitting/ slapping/leather or anything like that. We've discussed at length and it really did set me back a bit as I figured she always wanted to have a fair share so to speak. Nope. She loves that I think about the scenarios, plan them, execute them etc. She can relax and let it happen. She says she can turn her brain off and just ride it. (no pun intended there). Frankly, I love this too.

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