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FOR MEN: What makes a woman sexy?

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At the risk of jacking a different thread, this question came up and it seemed worth exploring in more detail. There are certainly some broad assumptions out there about what men find attractive in women. However, "Sexy" is a bit more intangible. So, what makes a woman "sexy?" How universal is this perspective?
Thanks to @Affaircare for suggesting it.
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Yes, I would. A woman's face can completely captivate me. I will often remember a woman's face, but nothing else about her.

Mrs. JH's former friend (and man hunter) had blue eyes that knocked my socks off the first time I saw her. I couldn't take my eyes off hers. (I admitted this to Mrs. JH today.) Later on I did serious study of her and wife's buns as I followed behind on bicycle rides, but not sure I could describe the territory in between. 😁
Yes, I have found myself captivated by beautiful women as well, the best is when you can't take your eyes off each other 🤭

Still it's kinda like romantic vs sexual attraction for me 🤷‍♂️ prettiness makes me only romantically attracted.
Yes, I have found myself captivated by beautiful women as well, the best is when you can't take your eyes off each other 🤭

Still it's kinda like romantic vs sexual attraction for me 🤷‍♂️ prettiness makes me only romantically attracted.
Ha! Nothing romantic about my response to the man hunter's eyes. Just stand out attention getting. If she'd been looking at me I would have would not be returning the look. Too scary.
Ha! Nothing romantic about my response to the man hunter's eyes. Just stand out attention getting. If she'd been looking at me I would have would not be returning the look. Too scary.
Ah, but there is a world of difference between a subtle, playful or even innocent tease - and a straight out hungry man hunter.

Also if you were able to pull your eyes away you were not completely captivated 😋
Ah, but there is a world of difference between a subtle, playful or even innocent tease - and a straight out hungry man hunter.

Also if you were able to pull your eyes away you were not completely captivated 😋
I set limits. I didn't know until later that she was a predator. Treated hubby poorly while on the hunt. Talked him into having a vasectomy and then went out and had her tubes cut behind his back. Mrs. JH relayed conversation with her to me.

Funny story. Predator and Mrs. JH went on a kayak tour in the Sea of Cortez. I'm sure the predator was looking for studly type dudes to be on the tour. It turned out that the rest of the crew were lesbian and one wimpy male doctor and female partner. The girls asked Mrs. JH if it was okay to hit on the Predator. 😅 In any event other than Mrs. JH opining that the Predator took the tour leader out into the bushes, no studly dudes. I thought this was hilarious.

Mrs. JH and I invited the Predator, the lesbian crew and the doctor and partner to our house for wine and nibbles. Not like I was rubbing it in. There was only one person there who was not into the conversation. 🤣
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Actually, I'm into faces. The other items are just accessories. ;)
I do find my wife's facial features to be the biggest attraction to me. But, damn those boobies just turn me back into a teenage boy, lol
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To me, it starts with the eyes, that look. Then the smile and shape of face, longer hair and after that, the proportion balance of chest and hips. Has to have some curves, I drive fast, so curves are exciting. The right attitude of submissive feminine but playfully challenging. A girl that will wrestle you because she wants to get physical with you.

Well all the things that attracted me to my wife.
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I do find my wife's facial features to be the biggest attraction to me. But, damn those boobies just turn me back into a teenage boy, lol
Full C to DD is my limit. Wife was C when met her, DD after 2 kids, now a D.
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Anyone old enough to remember Meg Foster's eyes?
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At the risk of jacking a different thread, this question came up and it seemed worth exploring in more detail. There are certainly some broad assumptions out there about what men find attractive in women. However, "Sexy" is a bit more intangible. So, what makes a woman "sexy?" How universal is this perspective?
Thanks to @Affaircare for suggesting it.
When she's snuggled into the duvet and she looks up at you with sparkling green eyes. . . . does it for me anyway!
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Within reason.

A bit of weight is okay, but too much weight absolutely would matter. If my wife jumped to 200+ pounds (or even less honestly), I would find it gross and unattractive.
Yep, agree. Sadly, I'm living this - I'm 6'1" and around 225 lbs, and my wife is around 5'7" and has to weigh at least as much as I do. Worst part is that she complains that her knees hurt and she's always tired, but either doesn't put 2/2 together (her knees hurt because she's overweight) or doesn't want to make the effort (can't give up the crap food she likes to eat). Yesterday, I was eating some fruit for lunch while she had a big piece of red velvet cheesecake she got a couple nights earlier when out with friends - didn't say anything but went outside to do yardwork while she took a nap on a nice mid-70's day.
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I like pear shaped women with a pretty face and blonde hair with blue eyes. I also love it if they dress conservative ish. Like something your grandma might wear.
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I’m confused. Y’all say overly assertive and slutty like it’s a bad thing. I guess you can’t please everyone 🤜👌
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Nothing beats a huge set of jugs, lol.
Exactly! Wife is not ‘huge’ but above average, caught my attention. Gorgeous and Sexy in an understated way. She was well aware of my attraction and why. To this day she is expert at establishing and maintaining sexual tension, reads me like a book.
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For me it's 90% attitude. Ive been with some model looking women and some probably below average ones. My wife is not the most outright beautiful woman I've ever dated but she is by far the best one. Someone smart enough to have something to say, independent and loyal is sexy as hell to me. Plus someone who isn't insecure and out there trying to get the attention of every swinging member around to validate her existence.
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I like them smart. Real smart. And I like them independent. Probably a FOO thing, but I never wanted someone who was completely dependent on me. I like them totally able and willing to be on their own. Oh, and I like them blonde and on the thinner side. So wife is a check, check, check. She's 60 and still blonde. Very little gray. No dye. Breathtaking. A specimen.
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I find a woman that embraces fully that is a woman sexy. Shes good with being femine when its.the right time, yet can handle herself in situations. Flirty, hard to get and very available. Smells intoxicating and oh so woman..doesnt hurt to.wear aid skirts!! Hahahahaha
No mustache
No body lice
No warts
Doesn't pick their nose in public
Hair at least a few inches long - only on her head
Her biceps are not bigger than mine :)
Doesn't need Greased Lightning in the shower to come out smelling clean
Can speak with reasonable sensibility on current events
A sense of integrity that is similar to "The Knights of the Old Code" - (one needs to be liberal with what it stand for)
Doesn't have a BMI much over 26 (but that is a bit flexible)
Doesn't harbor any animosity or "hate" against ANY race, nationality or ethnic group.
Likes animals as pets (Hippos and Rhinoceros and serpents excepted) - Cat haters, or actually, haters of ANY animal is off my "attractiveness list" Not wanting to LIVE with them is a bit different.
Would have to be ok with a cat or dog. Birds? Nah - Fish? gimme a break!
Likes people in general and give them "the benefit of the doubt" when they violate usual
societal norms. Once
Bonus! Only has to shave once a week
Can "dress up" in conventional "female fashion" attire. But very limited in the application of grease mixed with different colored dirts - aka "Makeup"
No fetish issues - vegan is ok but doesn't hold prejudice when going to Angus Barn or Outback for date dinner.
Views the laws of the society in which they live and the willingness to live by such as a necessary subjugation of one's personal likes for the better of the common good. (as in don't park in the handicap parking space crotchface!) (for starters)
Be willing to take risk of helping a stranger in need (not referring to panhandlers)

- I could post more but this should get "the point across"

Side note: It is nice if they are "good looking" too.
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The title of this thread says "For Men," so, not a man, don't identify as one, never have, never will but I'm bit bored and I thought I'd put a twist into the thread. I'm going to describe what I think heterosexual men find sexy universally.

What Men Find Sexy in Women

~Pretty face but with a slight mischievousness lurking.

~Full smile with straight, white teeth.

~Body that's mostly balanced with a tiny waist and a hips that curve out so the difference in size is very noticeable.

~Dresses in a way that shows off their curves but not overly sexual.

~ Walks with a sense of purpose with a hint of wiggle but not over-done.

~ Has a good sense of humor and seems to understand what you're thinking.


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The title of this thread says "For Men," so, not a man, don't identify as one, never have, never will but I'm bit bored and I thought I'd put a twist into the thread. I'm going to describe what I think heterosexual men find sexy universally.

What Men Find Sexy in Women

~Pretty face but with a slight mischievousness lurking.

~Full smile with straight, white teeth.

~Body that's mostly balanced with a tiny waist and a hips that curve out so the difference in size is very noticeable.

~Dresses in a way that shows off their curves but not overly sexual.

~ Walks with a sense of purpose with a hint of wiggle but not over-done.

~ Has a good sense of humor and seems to understand what you're thinking.


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I think you nailed it!
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The title of this thread says "For Men," so, not a man, don't identify as one, never have, never will but I'm bit bored and I thought I'd put a twist into the thread. I'm going to describe what I think heterosexual men find sexy universally.

What Men Find Sexy in Women

~Pretty face but with a slight mischievousness lurking.

~Full smile with straight, white teeth.

~Body that's mostly balanced with a tiny waist and a hips that curve out so the difference in size is very noticeable.

~Dresses in a way that shows off their curves but not overly sexual.

~ Walks with a sense of purpose with a hint of wiggle but not over-done.

~ Has a good sense of humor and seems to understand what you're thinking.


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How did you do?

Think you could be dangerous!
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