I remember it, but was a little too young to fully appreciate it at the time. She set the standard for hair in the 70's and 80's. I did have a poster of Tawny Kitaen in my room though.Somebody mentioned something about universal appeal....was anyone on the thread alive when the Farrah Fawcet poster hit? I was in high school. It was like a sex appeal tornado
If any of the ladies are still present - BigJim brought up something that you (the ladies) might want to take to heart. When we love you, we love your quirks. Seriously. My wife had a particular health issue that deeply embarrassed her. You had to be looking at her when it happened but back then, it happened with some frequency. It no longer happens. She looks at me funny when I tell her I miss it. I really do. I just adored it. I can't explain it, but it just attached me so much to her.
FOR MEN: What makes a woman sexy?
At the risk of jacking a different thread, this question came up and it seemed worth exploring in more detail. There are certainly some broad assumptions out there about what men find attractive in women. However, "Sexy" is a bit more intangible. So, what makes a woman "sexy?" How universal is this perspective?
Thanks to @Affaircare for suggesting it.
Thanks to @Affaircare for suggesting it.
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There is nothing more sexy that a women who feels sexy. I know this sounds redundant but let me enplane. Women have a tendency to be hyper self critical. "My hips are too wide, my nose looks funny or I am over weight." None of that matters to a man that loves you.
Within reason.If any of the ladies are still present - BigJim brought up something that you (the ladies) might want to take to heart. When we love you, we love your quirks. Seriously.
A bit of weight is okay, but too much weight absolutely would matter. If my wife jumped to 200+ pounds (or even less honestly), I would find it gross and unattractive.
Bobert - yeah within reason and age adjusted. As I posted, my "type" is svelte (or as my buddy constantly reminded me....death camp survivors). But it's hard for anyone with access to food to keep their aged 19 svelteness into your 60s. So my wife is not completely svelte anymore. But I look around at women her age and am so grateful that she's stayed in shape. Oddly, now that she has done yoga and the gym for the last 30 years, she's in far better shape fitness wise than when she was young. And I will say with authority boy that bonus in certain departments.
+1 on yoga. I am so inflexible that when I go to a yoga class the teacher will facepalm 🤦♂️ and shake his head on anything that isn’t a strength exercise. Am very happy my wife is flexible.
"Happy Baby" makes me a happy hubby 
Been wanting to contribute here, but I could end up writing a novel.
By “sexy” I define that as “sexual” as something that exudes, either by overt display or a small hint, sex.
Many things, but they differ depending on the woman. There are things she did when we started dating that would blow my mind. Stepping ahead of me as we left a concert and stopping to wiggle her butt at me. Giving me a wink with that twinkle and smile curled up to one side as she tilted her head…
All good even now, but something as simple as her wearing something like jeans, a nightie, underwear because she knows I really like it.
Her librarian look that she pulls off without meaning to. Wow. She drives me crazy.
Initiation and specific direction in the bedroom. Flat out telling me, for instance the other night, “If you reach your hand around front and go down, I think you’ll feel something you‘ll like.”
Her natural walk. Her silhouette when she lays on her side. Her continued willingness to explore new things as one who hadn’t had a “wild” youth, then was married with two kids by 25 years old.
Her virtue, innocence, and faith in God while also being willing to get naughty with me. I may have to answer for some things when I meet Jesus, but even in our older ages (me 55/her 63), we still enjoy one another and she does humor me when I suggest acts, devices, and other things.
And, more than anything, the absolute privilege I have of being THEE ONE that she allows to be with her in Eros love and deep emotional connections… it keeps my heart beating.
Damn. I really, really love my gal!
By “sexy” I define that as “sexual” as something that exudes, either by overt display or a small hint, sex.
Many things, but they differ depending on the woman. There are things she did when we started dating that would blow my mind. Stepping ahead of me as we left a concert and stopping to wiggle her butt at me. Giving me a wink with that twinkle and smile curled up to one side as she tilted her head…
All good even now, but something as simple as her wearing something like jeans, a nightie, underwear because she knows I really like it.
Her librarian look that she pulls off without meaning to. Wow. She drives me crazy.
Initiation and specific direction in the bedroom. Flat out telling me, for instance the other night, “If you reach your hand around front and go down, I think you’ll feel something you‘ll like.”
Her natural walk. Her silhouette when she lays on her side. Her continued willingness to explore new things as one who hadn’t had a “wild” youth, then was married with two kids by 25 years old.
Her virtue, innocence, and faith in God while also being willing to get naughty with me. I may have to answer for some things when I meet Jesus, but even in our older ages (me 55/her 63), we still enjoy one another and she does humor me when I suggest acts, devices, and other things.
And, more than anything, the absolute privilege I have of being THEE ONE that she allows to be with her in Eros love and deep emotional connections… it keeps my heart beating.
Damn. I really, really love my gal!
I like spooning while my wife is drifting off to sleep. Whole new assortment of sensations.
This was fun to read. I think that it really is something that cannot be easily described. Seems like it is a matter of something inside that doesn't really make sense, but we know it when it is strong like this.Been wanting to contribute here, but I could end up writing a novel.
By “sexy” I define that as “sexual” as something that exudes, either by overt display or a small hint, sex.
Many things, but they differ depending on the woman. There are things she did when we started dating that would blow my mind. Stepping ahead of me as we left a concert and stopping to wiggle her butt at me. Giving me a wink with that twinkle and smile curled up to one side as she tilted her head…
All good even now, but something as simple as her wearing something like jeans, a nightie, underwear because she knows I really like it.
Her librarian look that she pulls off without meaning to. Wow. She drives me crazy.
Initiation and specific direction in the bedroom. Flat out telling me, for instance the other night, “If you reach your hand around front and go down, I think you’ll feel something you‘ll like.”
Her natural walk. Her silhouette when she lays on her side. Her continued willingness to explore new things as one who hadn’t had a “wild” youth, then was married with two kids by 25 years old.
Her virtue, innocence, and faith in God while also being willing to get naughty with me. I may have to answer for some things when I meet Jesus, but even in our older ages (me 55/her 63), we still enjoy one another and she does humor me when I suggest acts, devices, and other things.
And, more than anything, the absolute privilege I have of being THEE ONE that she allows to be with her in Eros love and deep emotional connections… it keeps my heart beating.
Damn. I really, really love my gal!
And in this way, it really doesn't matter what she is wearing or doing. It's just sexy, whatever happens.
I was hoping to see a kind of definition of what sexy is before I posted anything. I realized from the above that there is sexy and then there is the above. The word sexy doesn't seem able to describe it sufficiently.
Lots of sexy out there. Not as many like the above and less when the feelings are mutual.
Thanks for posting that. Made me think.
Why thank you! I’m taking your response as a compliment. I read it out loud to my wife and she thought is was really cool of you to respond that way.This was fun to read. I think that it really is something that cannot be easily described. Seems like it is a matter of something inside that doesn't really make sense, but we know it when it is strong like this.
And in this way, it really doesn't matter what she is wearing or doing. It's just sexy, whatever happens.
I was hoping to see a kind of definition of what sexy is before I posted anything. I realized from the above that there is sexy and then there is the above. The word sexy doesn't seem able to describe it sufficiently.
Lots of sexy out there. Not as many like the above and less when the feelings are mutual.
Thanks for posting that. Made me think.
Then she said, “Read me what you wrote about me again.” 😄 And so I did.
It was a compliment.Why thank you! I’m taking your response as a compliment. I read it out loud to my wife and she thought is was really cool of you to respond that way.
Then she said, “Read me what you wrote about me again.” 😄 And so I did.
A few things that I find sexy:
1) a smile
2) confidence - not overconfidence, but confident enough in herself to communicate !
3) height/weight proportionate
4) pretty hair
5) Hard Nipples thru blouse - Man Magnets !!!!!!!!
1) a smile
2) confidence - not overconfidence, but confident enough in herself to communicate !
3) height/weight proportionate
4) pretty hair
5) Hard Nipples thru blouse - Man Magnets !!!!!!!!
I'm not particularly a breast man, but the hard nipples are hard to ignore. Threatens to take my mind to places a married man's mind should not be.A few things that I find sexy:
1) a smile
2) confidence - not overconfidence, but confident enough in herself to communicate !
3) height/weight proportionate
4) pretty hair
5) Hard Nipples thru blouse - Man Magnets !!!!!!!!
Thank you for your honesty.
I stole that from here somewhere and thought that explains everything.
Actually, I'm into faces. The other items are just accessories.
But you wouldn't say "oh her face is so sexy" would ya? I would say pretty/beautiful/cute/good-looking but not sexy...Actually, I'm into faces. The other items are just accessories.
Sexy comes from something else, for me anyway... then again eyelashes can be sexy sometimes... tongue out can also be sexy... guess it depends on the expressions, not really the aesthetics.
Yes, I would. A woman's face can completely captivate me. I will often remember a woman's face, but nothing else about her.But you wouldn't say "oh her face is so sexy" would ya? I would say pretty/beautiful/cute/good-looking but not sexy...
Sexy comes from something else, for me anyway... then again eyelashes can be sexy sometimes... tongue out can also be sexy... guess it depends on the expressions, not really the aesthetics.
Mrs. JH's former friend (and man hunter) had blue eyes that knocked my socks off the first time I saw her. I couldn't take my eyes off hers. (I admitted this to Mrs. JH today.) Later on I did serious study of her and wife's buns as I followed behind on bicycle rides, but not sure I could describe the territory in between. 😁
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