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How long does the fog take to lift? Anyone? My H is in a PA and has been since sept, maybe earlier. I know everyone is different, I'm not even sure if I want him back but I want him o at least discuss things with me and if hs fog has lifted, see if there is an possibility of R.
 

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The fog cannot begin to lift unless he has completely broken off his affair: absolutely no contact with AP...and then it may take awhile after that.
 

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Maybe a few weeks after no contact. Which is why ending contact is so important. Make it difficult. Expose him. Expose her. Kick him out. Make it hard to live in fantasyland.
 

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It has been a month here since I kicked him out, but he hasn't appeared to change his behavior ir even recognize he's in the wrong. I am trying to determine for myself, how long I want to wait in limbo.
 

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Although I admire people who manage to hang on to their marriages, I am of the opinion that "once a betrayer, always a betrayer". It is so much easier the second or third time. Easier to justify, easier to hide it...

If someone betrays another, out they go. If for no other reason than a few months of separation so both sides can evaluate and decide whether or not to make a go of it again. And that is so much harder to do when the betrayer is still around.

Chopsy, as far as the fog is concerned, so long as it is there I suggest doing nothing. Wait until you have your mind clear and can firmly determine what is best for you and you alone. The betrayers feelings are meaningless at this point and for the indefinite future.
 
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