Finding phone evidence despite anti-spy apps installed

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kab_

Discussion Starter · 16 d ago

I have some solid suspicions that my wife has an affair.

It looks like she is having a long-distant affair over the past few months, with someone that she's met a few times, while keeping a text kind of relationship in the middle.

My issue is that I have reached the top of the possible findings on her Google profile activity and her Facebook messages with her friends. She has installed anti-spy apps on her phone, so it looks difficult for me to find an angle there.

I would like some technical advice on how to get into her phone despite these anti-spy, anti-theft etc protective apps. Also, if you have some other alternatives, for example stuff like spy-pens, if any of you have tried them and have feedback it would be useful. But I know that her phone has immediate answers and I am looking for some ideas on how to get into it without triggering alarms or safety windows combined with notifications or whatever else these apps do.

To be here and asking these things, means that I have almost solved the case by myself, but I need a solid and undoubting evidence of her infidelity. Please, I would appreciate if you wouldn't ask questions about me being sure or the ethics of it. I am sick and tired and frustrated and I need something in my hands, because if I doun't I am 101% sure that she will try to deny it and turn it back to me.

Thank you in advance.

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Evinrude58

· #61 · 16 d ago

OP,
You’re putting all of your focus on “finding evidence”. In my opinion, you could catch her banging the guy in your bed and you’d find yet another reason to do nothing.

your wife is having an affair. Who cares about WHY. She has all this protection on her phone—— that is the actions of a PRACTICED, serial cheater. I can assure you, she’s not depressed with HIM, and he is NOT her first affair partner.

Please stop coming up with excuses not to see an attorney and divorce. It won’t be a bit easier with “evidence”. I’d you want evidence hire a PI the next time she’s lined up to go meet him. But evidence won’t make it easier to divorce her. You already know this is no longer a marriage. Send her packing with divorce papers. Hell, hasn’t she earned them?

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Trident

· #62 · 16 d ago

Andy1001 said:
I wasn’t trying to be ironic.
You said that you had a sharing fantasy and I’m wondering if your wife is playing along, leaving hints of infidelity for you without actually doing anything.

I'm not saying this is wrong, but I will say this is probably the most outlandish stretch of imagination I've read in over 10 years of reading countless forum posts.

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FireForEffect

· #63 · 16 d ago

OP I agree with the other posters who say its over and just file already. But if you really want proof, forget the technology. Just have her followed. She can anti-spy her phone but she can't anti-spy her physical person. Where she goes so goes her affair. In the days before cell phones I caught my ex-wife simply by following her.

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Exit37

· #64 · 16 d ago

Start with a VAR under the seat of her car and in a room where she is likely to talk on the phone when you are not around. You can install a stand-alone GPS on her car as well, some have geofencing so you can get alerted when she drives away from your home, he work, etc. Then have a PI follow to get pictures. Good luck.

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Benbutton

· #65 · 16 d ago

kab_ said:
As I said before, thank you for reaching out to discuss the issue I raised and its reasons/outcomes etc. Unfortunately my and my spouse are in this place where things cannot be fixed. I will trully appreciate if there is a forum member that either has the technical knowledge or a previous experience to assist me with the raised issue. Thank you.

My technical knowledge begins with a hammer and ends with it crashing down on the phone.

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Lostinthought61

· #66 · 16 d ago

This may have been mentioned before but perhaps your best strategy beyond going through her phone is to buy several VARs and plant. Them where she might talk to the OM man or BBF.
Beyond that I would tell her that any restart of reconciliation would begin with a polygraph for both of you...if she has nothing to hide then she should be fine.

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Wolfman1968

· #67 · 16 d ago

kab_ said:
I can't think of my life without my kids and her. I have endured a lot the past year, reaching my hand and becoming the better version of myself. She doesnt grab my hand and it feels that the distance is growing. I still have feelings for her. I love my kids that I am willing to sacrifice everything to stay near them. I grew up without a father and I dont want them to be raised in the same way. But if she actually cheated like I have been seriously implied into as of yesterday, it would be something that I know I wouldnt be able to come back from.

Can I suggest that we assume that the anti-spyware cannot be beaten, for practical purposes?
Because if we make that assumption, then we would have to think of alternative, non-electronic methods of confirming your suspicions.
Given her level of caution, I would assume that the typical VAR wouldn't work, because I would assume that anyone who is sweeping for hidden cameras will be sweeping for VARs.
Your best bet may be to hire a Private Eye to tail her.

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Rubix Cubed

· #68 · 16 d ago

This covers a lot of ground for getting the proof.

Standard evidence gathering thread Standard Evidence Post

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jlg07

· #69 · 15 d ago

kab_ said:
She has asked from me to give her some time to sort out herself and feel better, away from a depressive state with the professional help too, and that she cannot begin rebuilding without feeling better about herself first. I hear it. I saw she wrote the same thing at her friends' chat so it is checked. I cannot rebuild if part of her feeling better about herself is an affair.

So, can you get a PI to investigate her? Maybe then you can get solid proof. They also may have ways into her phone...

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Altgirl814

· #70 · 12 d ago

Can you get statements for phone bill to see who's shes contacting frequently? If you can see her app store downloads is she using those fake texting apps? Can you guess her log in information

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