In your last thread you said you had “Sharing fantasies” about your wife.
It seems that your fantasies came true.
It seems that your fantasies came true.
Finding phone evidence despite anti-spy apps installed
I have some solid suspicions that my wife has an affair.
It looks like she is having a long-distant affair over the past few months, with someone that she's met a few times, while keeping a text kind of relationship in the middle.
My issue is that I have reached the top of the possible findings on her Google profile activity and her Facebook messages with her friends. She has installed anti-spy apps on her phone, so it looks difficult for me to find an angle there.
I would like some technical advice on how to get into her phone despite these anti-spy, anti-theft etc protective apps. Also, if you have some other alternatives, for example stuff like spy-pens, if any of you have tried them and have feedback it would be useful. But I know that her phone has immediate answers and I am looking for some ideas on how to get into it without triggering alarms or safety windows combined with notifications or whatever else these apps do.
To be here and asking these things, means that I have almost solved the case by myself, but I need a solid and undoubting evidence of her infidelity. Please, I would appreciate if you wouldn't ask questions about me being sure or the ethics of it. I am sick and tired and frustrated and I need something in my hands, because if I doun't I am 101% sure that she will try to deny it and turn it back to me.
Thank you in advance.
It looks like she is having a long-distant affair over the past few months, with someone that she's met a few times, while keeping a text kind of relationship in the middle.
My issue is that I have reached the top of the possible findings on her Google profile activity and her Facebook messages with her friends. She has installed anti-spy apps on her phone, so it looks difficult for me to find an angle there.
I would like some technical advice on how to get into her phone despite these anti-spy, anti-theft etc protective apps. Also, if you have some other alternatives, for example stuff like spy-pens, if any of you have tried them and have feedback it would be useful. But I know that her phone has immediate answers and I am looking for some ideas on how to get into it without triggering alarms or safety windows combined with notifications or whatever else these apps do.
To be here and asking these things, means that I have almost solved the case by myself, but I need a solid and undoubting evidence of her infidelity. Please, I would appreciate if you wouldn't ask questions about me being sure or the ethics of it. I am sick and tired and frustrated and I need something in my hands, because if I doun't I am 101% sure that she will try to deny it and turn it back to me.
Thank you in advance.
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Thanks for the reply, Andy. I would appreciate if you kept the irony out.In your last thread you said you had “Sharing fantasies” about your wife.
It seems that your fantasies came true.
What kind of anti spy apps .? Be specific ?
I am not sure, because I only managed to see her browsing history on Google Play Store. She searched for a few ones, like Anti Spy Detector - Spyware, but I am not sure wich one did she install.
Also, she searched for apps like hidden camera detectors like 'Who touched my phone' that record failed login attemts and enable the camera etc.What kind of anti spy apps .? Be specific ?
Well, OK, but why don't you just end the relationship?Please, I would appreciate if you wouldn't ask questions about me being sure or the ethics of it.
There are kids, finances etc involved so I need a crystal clear evidence, otherwise she will deny it and gain some time at least to clean everything out. Knowing her for years, I would like to end this with a clean cut otherwise it won't work and she will deny it and throw the blame back to me.Well, OK, but why don't you just end the relationship?
Do you have access to the phone ?Also, she searched for apps like hidden camera detectors like 'Who touched my phone' that record failed login attemts and enable the camera etc.
I can find access at night when she is asleep. She used a thumb and/or a face recognition to unlock it. She used to have a pattern to unlock as well. I am aware of the pattern but I highly doubt she kept it as I remember it from 2 years ago.Do you have access to the phone ?
If you are in a no fault jurisdiction, proof of her infidelity won't change the division of assets. If you need to know for yourself that is one thing but what if you find out your suspicions were wrong & she's not having an affair? The fact that you have so little trust doesn't bode well for the continuation of the marriage.
I'm kind of on your side. If she went so far as to install anti-spyware she probably had a reason. You could ask her straight up but in a round about way:
Make your inquiry about protecting the family finances & judge her reaction.
I'm kind of on your side. If she went so far as to install anti-spyware she probably had a reason. You could ask her straight up but in a round about way:
"Hey honey I noticed you got some anti-spyware. Were you hacked? Should I be worried? Do we need to check with the bank? (especially if she has Venmo, Zelle, Apple Pay or some other pay with your phone software or has a banking app on the phone)"
Make your inquiry about protecting the family finances & judge her reaction.
I wasn’t trying to be ironic.Thanks for the reply, Andy. I would appreciate if you kept the irony out.
You said that you had a sharing fantasy and I’m wondering if your wife is playing along, leaving hints of infidelity for you without actually doing anything.
I ticked the above, because although it seems far fetched, strange things really do happen in couples, and it's worth at least considering.You said that you had a sharing fantasy and I’m wondering if your wife is playing along, leaving hints of infidelity for you without actually doing anything.
As I said before, thank you for reaching out to discuss the issue I raised and its reasons/outcomes etc. Unfortunately my and my spouse are in this place where things cannot be fixed. I will trully appreciate if there is a forum member that either has the technical knowledge or a previous experience to assist me with the raised issue. Thank you.
Irony is needed for context.Thanks for the reply, Andy. I would appreciate if you kept the irony out.
For background.
For backdrop, the behind the scenes hoopla.
For an accurate portrait of your particular life situation.
...................................................................................................
You see....
The texture of your life has added some (seemingly) bad wrinkles.
You wife appears to have a ripply, hidden side that needs leveling out.
We tend to iron them out.......here.
Sadly, many use hot steam.
Some sprinkle humor on the sore, that is the probable truth.
I hope this helps.
I hope you find nothing serious, only your own goosebumps.
Does she have a tablet , or social media off of the phone ? Home computer or iPad. ? Outside email ? .....Your issue is your afraid to get caught snooping ?
Can you take a picture of her finger when she is asleep ( friend did this ) and use a 3D printer ?
Can you take a picture of her finger when she is asleep ( friend did this ) and use a 3D printer ?
Can you look at her playstore download history ? You might be able to uninstall the app from there
Would you care to elaborate on what has transpired since your last thread?Unfortunately my and my spouse are in this place where things cannot be fixed.
What has brought your marriage to this broken beyond repair....place.
Obviously, lack of trust.
Please fill us in.
Thanks.
Did she know about your fantasies?I have some solid suspicions that my wife has an affair.
It looks like she is having a long-distant affair over the past few months, with someone that she's met a few times, while keeping a text kind of relationship in the middle.
My issue is that I have reached the top of the possible findings on her Google profile activity and her Facebook messages with her friends. She has installed anti-spy apps on her phone, so it looks difficult for me to find an angle there.
I would like some technical advice on how to get into her phone despite these anti-spy, anti-theft etc protective apps. Also, if you have some other alternatives, for example stuff like spy-pens, if any of you have tried them and have feedback it would be useful. But I know that her phone has immediate answers and I am looking for some ideas on how to get into it without triggering alarms or safety windows combined with notifications or whatever else these apps do.
To be here and asking these things, means that I have almost solved the case by myself, but I need a solid and undoubting evidence of her infidelity. Please, I would appreciate if you wouldn't ask questions about me being sure or the ethics of it. I am sick and tired and frustrated and I need something in my hands, because if I doun't I am 101% sure that she will try to deny it and turn it back to me.
Thank you in advance.
If she has a I Phone, you could purchase a new or used I Pad and link it to her phone.
And, give it to her as a gift.
You would secretly need to be the Administrator so she does not lock you out of that also.
And, give it to her as a gift.
You would secretly need to be the Administrator so she does not lock you out of that also.
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