:iagree:Interesting. I think my boyfriend's female friends fall into the 'acquaintance' category. I don't get the feeling he confides in them but instead is a sounding board for them. One he maintains because she is primarily friends with the STBXW and they have more of a business relationship but he keeps in touch for informational purposes.
Depends. If the dude has trouble meeting/keeping gf's, then maybe this is his way of lurking in the shadows, with the hope that he can turn one of these friends into a gf. In his mind, if he just does everything they ask, they'll eventually throw themselves at him.What about dudes who have a lot of "close" female friends?
I think blindly drawing any conclusions based on reading TAM is a horrible, horrible mistake. Dont ever forget that this place is overpopulated with people seeking help for damaged, difficult and broken relationships.I hardly have any male friends but after reading on TAM so much and all of these "studies," I no longer see opposite-sex friendships the way I used to.
What about dudes who have a lot of "close" female friends?
It is a paper, and the critical part is that it needs peer review, frankly. Also - the website headlines totally misrepresent what the paper actually says. No surprise there.
There is the original paper:
http://bleske-rechek.com/April Website Files/Bleske-Rechek et al. 2012 Benefit or Burden.pdf
In summary, Study 2 offered support for the hypothesis that experiences in cross-sex friendship correspond to age differences in likelihood of being actively engaged in mate search. Young and middle-aged adults generally reported less attraction to their crosssex friends than emerging adults did, but those age differences disappeared among single participants. Single men across age groups reported relatively high levels of attraction to
their cross-sex friend, and single women across age groups reported moderate levels of attraction to their cross-sex friend.
etc. There is more.
As usual - Yahoo and internet sites that pick up on these things simply grab headlines by stating "Men and Women Cant be Just Friends" which is not at all what the paper says. Its subtle, more complicated than that and merely suggests tendancies. Note it is primarily related to single people.
If you are really interested - at least read the discussion at the end of the paper to get a better feel for what they are actually saying. At least - thats what I think.