My wife and I started to expand our horizons earlier this year and agreed to explore some SM stuff. I told her I wanted to be tied up and be flogged. She was great about it and purchased a flog and straps for the bed. A couple of times she really got into it and put a mask over my face and while tied down she flogged me lightly. It was initially a huge turn on that I shot my load all over myself way before I wanted to but could hold it back. The issue is that I am quite physically fit and want her to really flog me - I even told her it wound be a turn on to leave marks so that I would think of her when I travelled during the week. She just is so afraid of hurting me but doesn't come close. We don't do SM often so when we do I try to suggest that she really take some aggression out on me and would know I liked it by how hard my hard on was but each time she just can't take it to the next level. We have watched some SM movies together and I show her what turns me on but I am looking for advice on how to explain how she can really flog me.
This is always a special occasion when she gets the restraints out so I want to really enjoy the moment when she can control me completely - I even let her put a ball gag on my so I can't guide her through the activity. It is all great stuff but I just crave more force behind the flogger- for those of you who enjoy this I think you will understand what I mean.
Btw- my wife has a harder time expressing herself so at the moment we are still working on her secret desires. She does get turned on when she can take control over me though when I can hold back my cum she gets frustrated at me but she is learning slowly.
This is always a special occasion when she gets the restraints out so I want to really enjoy the moment when she can control me completely - I even let her put a ball gag on my so I can't guide her through the activity. It is all great stuff but I just crave more force behind the flogger- for those of you who enjoy this I think you will understand what I mean.
Btw- my wife has a harder time expressing herself so at the moment we are still working on her secret desires. She does get turned on when she can take control over me though when I can hold back my cum she gets frustrated at me but she is learning slowly.