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Thank you everyone so much for your thoughts. As I said, I do not want her to actually start smoking and know that even one cigarette is too much to ask or consider.

I never really considered an e-cigarette because I always thought the thing with them was pure nicotine. The other idea I have considered was a hookah bar. I would need to get the guts to talk to her about it first,

If I can ask the person that posted the above comment, can you elaborate on this. My goal is to indulge this fetish and put it behind me. It sounds like your comment is that it can escalate (which I really don't want).
E-Cigs are not about pure nicotine. One of the choices of liquid is no nicotine. There a many many flavors as well. My son uses an e-cig.

If you are ok with the hooka thing then an e-cig with no nicotine is a lot the same. Plus it looks more like smoking a real cigarette.

She should look really naughty, like one of those 1940's movie's where the actress used a cig holder to smoke.
 

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Around here they sell some relatively inexpensive e-cigs at the convenience stores. So she should pick on up there for not too much.
 

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The eCigs I buy are about $10 each. They have nicotine in them though... Not sure how much the vapor ones are... But she can always ask her friend where she got hers and how much it is. :)
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The eCigs I buy are about $10 each. They have nicotine in them though... Not sure how much the vapor ones are... But she can always ask her friend where she got hers and how much it is. :)
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The the e-cigs that you add your own liquid to... you can chose the level of nicotine is in the liquid. So you can get some that has no liquid.

There are now some shops in town that carry the ecigs and liquid at pretty good prices. It's cheaper than smoking cigs by a long shot and cheaper than getting the $10 ecigs.
 

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My wife and I have been married for seven years and over the course of our relationship I have kept something from her: I have a fetish for women that smoke. We are both non-smokers and she is very anti-smoking and has nagged her father to quit for years.

I hate that I have a fetish and have no idea where it comes from, but it's there. I have no desire for my wife to become a smoker (she smoked socially before we were together) but I can't escape a desire to see her smoke as a part of foreplay.

That said, I know it is insanely unhealthy and selfish of me. Also, I'm not sure how she would react. The closest I have gotten is telling that I want to see her act like a "bad girl" and go to a bar and see her act "naughty" (which I have described as including her smoking). She has played along with it but we have never taken the next step. I have also never flat out told her that the kink is for smoking.

Its insanely gross, but it is what it is. I have indulged the fetish online (there is an extensive online community for this fetish) but 99% of the stuff out there is flat out disgusting. I'm not into porn and there are some sick folks.

I have thought about the option of having her indulge this fetish without smoking (prop/unlit) cigarettes but, if I was her, upon hearing this, I would think that its insane. Also, I know one of the rules in kink is that the activity needs to be "safe". Smoking clearly is not.

So do I continue to keep this in the shadows or do I come out to her with it? Even without it being in the open our sex lives our generally healthy. Any advice?
 
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