Me and my partner have been together 3 years minus a few month split up engaged till the split up which occurred through the first half of my pregnancy, (he left me for someone younger, smoked pot nonstop, drank,etc) which I do believe was solely because when he realized we were going to have a baby he got scared and didn't want to grow up and take the responsibility. But he came around and we got an apartment together and prepared for our son, after that we lived there a few months till we had to go to another state for a month for me to have my son which he had to have a 3 part open heart surgery at 3 days old. (he's doing great, almost 3 months old now) and my partner used to look at me like i was the world, we had so many good times and still do but he doesn't look at me the same anymore, whenever i try to take care of the bills and go to find he spent his check on his car(which has happened every check since july still) he snaps and says it's his money and he'll do what the hell he wants, he works full time all I do is take care of our son day and night and when he comes home I expect him to come sit with us cuddle etc and he just goes straight to his car and whenever I go out and ask him to come spend time with us/cuddle for atleast 30 min he does (which the whole time I can tell all he's doing is thinking about going back out to work on his car) and he whenever the show were watching/ time I asked is up he jumps up and goes back out. and if it's not that he's on his phone(which when we were in the other state his iphone got stolen out of the hospital room, so 2 months ago he bought the new evo 4g android WHICH we fought over of coarse cause he put that before bills and his speeding ticket which still arent paid and now he has a 220 dollar phone bill that we can't pay either cause he spends all his money on working on the car, WHICH the carseat wont even fit in without the front passengers seat being flipped down( yes he owns a 2 door 5 speed 93 dodge stealth.. and just bought another.. which luckily is automatic so I can learn to drive.. but as of now doesn't run.. but regardless I am at a loss, when I show him how what he's doing upsets me he just blows up and says im trying to control him. which i'm not, his spending all his time on his phone and on the car after i wait 9 hours for him to come home instead of spending time with me and his perfect son hurts me more than he can imagine, him thinking I don't want him to have a social life whenever I get upset that he jumps and runs to his phone when he gets a text/notification but not when his son is crying or I spent forever on a meal and want him to eat with me. theres just so much and me and his mom both are at a loss, he never listens, he always thinks people are after him or against him, he lies about the stupidest ****.. but i'm so in love with him.. sometimes I really don't see all he does wrong. I just wish I knew how to get through to him, its always accusations or let me just finish this(which goes on to this and that then its hours later) and just so much I feel like i'm losing my mind.