Not expressing the real problem, but instead behaving like the person you are upset with is behaving is passive aggressive. The person doesn't make the connection. What they do is move further away from you. It's counterproductive. If this is a behavior your use in your life, I recommend you look up passive aggressive and see how many problems it will cause.I just don't see this as so much as passive aggressive, but as a wake up call for him, maybe he's just not that dim. Any thing that goes against what a person want always creates some division.