How do I try and save my marriage when my husband of 15 years says, he's lost and needs to find himself. He says he still loves me, but hates the woman I have become after I caught him after his affair. He in no way has blamed me for his affair, but blames me for the fact that he can't stand my attitude toward him. He thinks that "maybe" in time he will want me back, but maybe not. I offered a divorce to him, thinking he would disagree and he did not. He wants to divorce.......I'm devastated. we have 3 school aged children and I live in a city with no family. If this divorce happens, Id have no other choice but to move back home and with my inlaws. Ive been a housewife for the last 5 years and just finished school. Id still have to find a job and establish my credit until I can be on my own. I read a couple of threads similar to mine and I cannot believe how often this happens. Can someone offer an explanation as to why men feel get this feeling?