Hi. Okay, I've been married for 3 1/2 years. I'm 30 years old and so is my husband. I feel like we're roommates. We sleep in separate rooms and have completely opposite schedules. We sleep in separate rooms because he snores so loudly, I literally can't sleep. He has sleep apnea, but refuses to go to the doctor about it. He works from home so he stays up all night then sleeps all day. I have a normal schedule, so I sleep at night and I'm up during the day. We never have sex; it's probably been a good 2-3 months. He says it's not me, but I'm just not so sure. Many times, I'll think we're going to have sex, but he can't get an erection... It can be very disappointing. He has gained quite a bit of weight since we got married and I think that has contributed to the sleep apnea and he said he doesn't have a sex drive because he's not active. Well, he has done NOTHING to try to change that. I asked him and asked him to come running with me, but he refused (he continues to eat like crap, too, even AFTER I've cooked a nice meal). We just discussed it again about a week ago, and still nothing. I just don't know what to do. I mean, it's REALLY affecting me. It's affecting our marriage. Most of the time when I try to talk to him about things, he just gets very short with me and brushes it off. I'm literally at a loss. I feel like I can't talk to him about it because he gets so defensive and I don't want to have an argument. I'm just so sad about the state of our relationship that I don't know where to turn. I feel very alone. I mean, I love my husband with all of my heart, I can't imagine being with someone else.... Oh, not to mention, many times he'll sleep till 4:00 in the afternoon, get up, and then go take a "nap" at, like, 7:00. Is there anyone out there who can give me some advice? I mean, what can I do to get some passion back in our relationship? I'm just heartbroken over all of this.