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This is my first time posting anything like this, so here goes nothing.
My husband and I have been together over 5 years now, I was very young when we got married and had only known each other for 5 months. Everything was great at first, but we have had our fair share of problems over the past few years. It started about 2 years ago, I began to think he was cheating on me but never found anything that he was. Then a year ago, around this time of the year I found nude pictures of him on his phone and a email address he sent them too. He admitted he had created the email account and registered on a dating site. I've been trying to work past it, we have been working on our relationship and went to couseling for a few months. We have had our ups and downs, and it seems that all we do is fight. I just recently found more sites that he was on, to include dating sites. I confronted him and he said they were pop-ups when he was doing something else on the computer. I haven't trusted him in over a year and have been very unhappy. Also I found these sites the day after I sat him down and told him I have been thinking about separation/divorce, but thats not what I want because I love him and I want it to work, we have 2 kids together.
I feel like anytime I bring up anything to him all I hear is I love you, I'm sorry..to the point that it feel's like he doesn't actually mean it. Or I just get the brush off, the other day when I brought up our relationship, he tried blaming our strand relationship on the stress of the kids, which is so wrong, you can't blame your children for the way our marriage is!! I've just been so unhappy for so long, I'm so fed up with our situation and the way our relationship is. I feel like I have been fighting a losing battle for 2 years and feel myself distancing from him and think about what it would be to be apart and be myself for once, since I have given up everything and have taken care of him and our kids, I have nothing no job, no money and family lives in another state. I just don't know if its worth trying to fix anymore! He doesnt seem invested anymore.
Any advice? I couldn't tell you what I am looking for by posting this? Maybe someone elses story, some advice, support, I just dont know!
Thanks for reading and any comments!
My husband and I have been together over 5 years now, I was very young when we got married and had only known each other for 5 months. Everything was great at first, but we have had our fair share of problems over the past few years. It started about 2 years ago, I began to think he was cheating on me but never found anything that he was. Then a year ago, around this time of the year I found nude pictures of him on his phone and a email address he sent them too. He admitted he had created the email account and registered on a dating site. I've been trying to work past it, we have been working on our relationship and went to couseling for a few months. We have had our ups and downs, and it seems that all we do is fight. I just recently found more sites that he was on, to include dating sites. I confronted him and he said they were pop-ups when he was doing something else on the computer. I haven't trusted him in over a year and have been very unhappy. Also I found these sites the day after I sat him down and told him I have been thinking about separation/divorce, but thats not what I want because I love him and I want it to work, we have 2 kids together.
I feel like anytime I bring up anything to him all I hear is I love you, I'm sorry..to the point that it feel's like he doesn't actually mean it. Or I just get the brush off, the other day when I brought up our relationship, he tried blaming our strand relationship on the stress of the kids, which is so wrong, you can't blame your children for the way our marriage is!! I've just been so unhappy for so long, I'm so fed up with our situation and the way our relationship is. I feel like I have been fighting a losing battle for 2 years and feel myself distancing from him and think about what it would be to be apart and be myself for once, since I have given up everything and have taken care of him and our kids, I have nothing no job, no money and family lives in another state. I just don't know if its worth trying to fix anymore! He doesnt seem invested anymore.
Any advice? I couldn't tell you what I am looking for by posting this? Maybe someone elses story, some advice, support, I just dont know!
Thanks for reading and any comments!