My wife and I were together for around 4 years before we were married. Around the time of the wedding it was pretty clear to me that what I wanted was to play around and meet other women. That didn't seem like a big deal, I was hardly surprised by my own sinfulness after all and shrugged it off as the result of being a weak and fallen man.
But now just months later I regret marrying her. I care for her deeply, and I still love her. But I'm not happy to be married to her. I have some issues emotionally (in that I have a hard time knowing what feelings to take seriously and what to ignore) which make it difficult to decide things that require emotional input. I have made a habit of deciding things based primarily on logic.
As a result I married for duty, not for love and have come to realize just how unsatisfied my wife would be to know that this was the case.
I'm far from heartless and hesitate to discuss this with her, especially if I don't know what our options are from here. I understand "let man not put asunder what God has brought together". I'm more curious as to how this would apply to a situation where this is the only thing that makes the marriage function.
My username is chosen intentionally, I suspect I have been a fool to follow duty without passion, and am as a result by no means a "cheerful giver" at this time.
Should I hurt my wife's already weak self-esteem by bringing this up?
If yes, what would be a wise method by which to go about this?
But now just months later I regret marrying her. I care for her deeply, and I still love her. But I'm not happy to be married to her. I have some issues emotionally (in that I have a hard time knowing what feelings to take seriously and what to ignore) which make it difficult to decide things that require emotional input. I have made a habit of deciding things based primarily on logic.
As a result I married for duty, not for love and have come to realize just how unsatisfied my wife would be to know that this was the case.
I'm far from heartless and hesitate to discuss this with her, especially if I don't know what our options are from here. I understand "let man not put asunder what God has brought together". I'm more curious as to how this would apply to a situation where this is the only thing that makes the marriage function.
My username is chosen intentionally, I suspect I have been a fool to follow duty without passion, and am as a result by no means a "cheerful giver" at this time.
Should I hurt my wife's already weak self-esteem by bringing this up?
If yes, what would be a wise method by which to go about this?