My husband travels on business nearly half of every month, and has for years. I've felt pretty secure because he's so sweet when he gets home. I don't go digging for dirt, don't check up on him, and have never shown up unannounced at his hotel. Last week, however, he left his FB page open, and he has found an old girlfriend who just happens to live in the city he is working now...a place he goes often.
Their messages were all pretty bland, until he asked her if her husband would mind if they went to dinner. I brought it up with my husband before he left on his trip, so he'd understand that I feel there is no reason for a married person to "catch up" with an old flame when they haven't been friends, haven't even spoken for 25 years. My husband agreed, apologized for hurting my feelings, and promised to have no further contact with her.
But without missing a beat, they are still messaging and making dinner plans. In fact, some of their messages are time stamped while I'm on the phone with him!
This all coincides with my husband's birthday on Wed. My plan was to surprise him (for the first time ever) at his hotel with presents and me, but now I'm having to work around a clandestine dinner date. What do I do? Should I go early enough to intercept and prevent the date altogether, or bust it? And it's not even about her, really, it's the series of lies that seem to be unravelling.
Help!
Their messages were all pretty bland, until he asked her if her husband would mind if they went to dinner. I brought it up with my husband before he left on his trip, so he'd understand that I feel there is no reason for a married person to "catch up" with an old flame when they haven't been friends, haven't even spoken for 25 years. My husband agreed, apologized for hurting my feelings, and promised to have no further contact with her.
But without missing a beat, they are still messaging and making dinner plans. In fact, some of their messages are time stamped while I'm on the phone with him!
This all coincides with my husband's birthday on Wed. My plan was to surprise him (for the first time ever) at his hotel with presents and me, but now I'm having to work around a clandestine dinner date. What do I do? Should I go early enough to intercept and prevent the date altogether, or bust it? And it's not even about her, really, it's the series of lies that seem to be unravelling.
Help!