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OP - you stated that you go to the movies with a male friend, that would never happen in my marriage. Way too intamant. That is a date.....
I'm of the view that couples should share passwords .I think in your situation, things were misunderstood.Example: while talking about coming to visit and getting food and drinks he mentions if i don't want to drive i can leave my car at his hotel, i say if my H is working I'll leave it with him, then he offers we could always take a taxi if we drink.
^^^This was apparently suggestive. In my head he was offering me alternatives so I didn't have to drive, leave it at hotel and we'll get a different ride to the strip. made sense to me, i didn't think my old friend was hitting on me at all. besides im married and hes dating someone.
Not just guys, Thunder. It was suggestive to me, too. How this reads to me, a woman: I'll leave the car with my husband and I will be free to go to the hotel where you're staying, using the pretense that I can get a cab home.-- Example: while talking about coming to visit and getting food and drinks he mentions if i don't want to drive i can leave my car at his hotel, i say if my H is working I'll leave it with him, then he offers we could always take a taxi if we drink.
^^^This was apparently suggestive. --
Ah, yeah. Highly suggestive. THAT, I would not be cool. You have to remember how a guy's mind works. We know how other guys are. So, we're always aware of someone trying to scam on our woman. Your H doesn't know this guy, so there's really only one way for him to take that kind of message.
i said same sex friend. a female. we go see a movie maybe once a month, i go to her house and eat pizza, i take pictures the whole time and send them to my H so he knows where I am. and depending on how late it is I either sleep on the couch there or i go homeOP - you stated that you go to the movies with a male friend, that would never happen in my marriage. Way too intamant. That is a date.....
he stays at home all day? what does he do for a living? Seems he has an awful lot of idle time on his hands to dwell and search for things that aren't really there.he may be emotionally, but i would have no idea unless he said something. physically it's just not possible. he stays home literally all day, the most he does is watch a ton of porn(not an issue to me) but he may have something going on in his head about us or his ex or whatever, i can sometimes feel it when he won't hug me(and he has admitted this as the reason why on like 2 occasions when I ask him about it).
Does he require you to do that or you just do it to ease his mind? Sounds very dysfunctional to me. Have you guys considered counseling?i said same sex friend. a female. we go see a movie maybe once a month, i go to her house and eat pizza, i take pictures the whole time and send them to my H so he knows where I am. and depending on how late it is I either sleep on the couch there or i go home
Point well taken. You are correct.Not just guys, Thunder. It was suggestive to me, too. How this reads to me, a woman: I'll leave the car with my husband and I will be free to go to the hotel where you're staying, using the pretense that I can get a cab home.
You ask if couple should share passwords? The answer is an unequivocal yes.
Snooping: Is it wrong? Or, is it the right thing to do in marriage? by Willard F. Harley, Jr., Ph.D. - Marriage Builders®
he used to work a good part time job but when we moved again he hasn't had any luck getting a job in his career feild so he has just been at home collecting unemployment and putting in job applications. I keep telling him he will feel better once he is back out working and meeting people and staying busy.Does he require you to do that or you just do it to ease his mind? Sounds very dysfunctional to me. Have you guys considered counseling?
It's true. If you have to do it behind your spouses back it is over the line or coming damn close.DH has access to everything if he wants. Facebook hasn't changed our relationship or made it challenging at all.
There are a lot of people who aren't going to be ok w/their spouse having drinks with "an old friend" from high school who happens to be the opposite sex. Unless spouses can go along I don't see how this scenario would be good for any marriage.
probably. mainly when it comes to me going out and having friends. he thinks because of my age he is holding me back, that i should be out partying or what-have-you with people my own age, but i'm much more content with my older female friends just going to their place and sitting around talking. he doesn't believe me though which is why he thinks i'm always doing other thingswow ok he REALLY needs counseling. Could it be the fact that you're 21 and he's 33? Maybe that's playing on his insecurities too.
Thing about it, is inappropriate communication has been occuring before christ, and with the same implied reasons. Friends who still would bang the wife, and the wife wants to be naughty and talk a big game, wants to still be "cool" to the friends.Tell ya what. Facebook came THIS close to ending my 17 year marriage, and it was only through some pointed, serious "confrontations" that it got (at least so far) resolved.
Your husband wants to be your "one and only" in every single way. He probably feels completely betrayed, and that your relationship with the OM means more to you than his does. I can speak firsthand of how betrayed a guy feels by FB chatter.
It sounds like you two CAN work this out, but it's going to mean NOT hiding things or keeping secrets. It also might mean him getting a JOB and getting along with HIS life...
ABSOLUTELY..:iagree:You ask if couple should share passwords? The answer is an unequivocal yes.
Snooping: Is it wrong? Or, is it the right thing to do in marriage? by Willard F. Harley, Jr., Ph.D. - Marriage Builders®
^^^ All of the above. My hubby would HATE all of them, but i would not even think about doing them, but that is just me.Let me make sure I am reading this correct. You are a married woman who...
1) Is going out with a man alone with him?
2) Is going out drinking with him?
3) Is going to drink sufficient quantities of alcohol to warrant not driving?
4) Is meeting him at a hotel?
:smthumbup:Let me make sure I am reading this correct. You are a married woman who...
1) Is going out with a man alone with him?
2) Is going out drinking with him?
3) Is going to drink sufficient quantities of alcohol to warrant not driving?
4) Is meeting him at a hotel?