My husband of 20 years had several emotional affairs, and the latest a full blown emotional and physical affair. He says he doesnt want a divorce, cause he sees the good in me, but there is no chemistry and he doesnt want to work on the marriage... at least not right now. He wants to date. He has left us once to be with AP, but came home after 8 months. His reason then was the AP was an alcoholic and seems a selfish mom who has let her kid get into drugs. So, all the while he was back, he acted like he really wanted to make marriage work, but at the same time, still lying and keeping in contact with the AP. He says he is not going to stop contacting her, still want to continue relationship as the AP promise she'll do anything to help herself so that my husband and her can be together forever. His parents know about this, one set won't take sides, and my husband doesnt care what the other set of parents think. I know he has talked to friends and his siblings, and I don't know what they tell him, but he is still in contact with the AP. I have asked him to move out! So, exposing the affair to friends and family won't work. We have a mutual friend who also is a closer friend of the AP. What do you think of exposing the affair to her to ask for her help in talking with the AP?