I live in Dubai, but I don’t care fir the lifestyle here. I save as much as I can fir a secure future.Why is being an expat a burden on the relationship? Does your wife not want to live wherever you are any longer? And if you relocated, would that make any significant difference, or just delay further problems?
SO she is clearly planning for HER to be comfortable in the future -- SEPARATE from you.she demanded that I increase her monthly money to $1500 as she needs to save for herself.
What is your country of origin? Is Dubai her country of origin? This is important because culture and religion can make a huge difference in all this.I live in Dubai, but I don’t care fir the lifestyle here. I save as much as I can fir a secure future.
Does your wife work outside the home?I honestly do not know where to turn at the moment.
I am on my second marriage. 1st one failed as my ex wife cheated on me. I manage to pick myself up and move on and I have been with my partner now for 6 years. The alarm bells started a while ago with some considerable passive aggressive behaviour.
at the moment I am being ignored, she is in the bedroom and I am in living room and the the past 8 hours she has not spoken to me. Completely ignore any conversation points with me as I commented on something she did not like.
My partner does not work and I give her around $1000 dollars a month and just ask her to get the food shopping and the rest of the cash is hers to do what ever she wants with. I brought her a car and provide everything needed like house, bills paid etc. We typically eat out a minimum of 1 night per week in a nice restaurant. More recently she has been moaning at me about money, where is my money going where are your savings etc. I also had a bonus from my employer of $20k which I put into savings, and she demanded that I increase her monthly money to $1500 as she needs to save for herself.
I see that my income is for the family including kids. She does not want for anything. As for example last year we went on a 4 week holiday across Europe coving Paris, Belgium, London and multiple parts of the U.K. while on holiday not once did I get a simple token gesture of a thank you or not of appreciation. The year before we had 4 international holidays, Singapore, UK, Spain and Italy together. But looking back on it, again I do not see any shred of appreciation.
It's too bad she cannot come here and tell us her side of things. That would be interesting.The last time I had a smile and thank you from her was when she got a LV bag. I get no hugs, not one “I love you” in over a year...
the problem is we have a child together and at the moment my thoughts are all for making my daughters life happy. I have kids from a previous marriage who my current partner resents considerably.
I refer to my wife as a partner, as I don’t see her fulfilling her role as a wife.
I have no friends that I trust to discus this with as they all are still in contact with my ex wife. Also I do not have any family and am finding it difficult dealing with the negative from my partner
Job security has not been great in the past and she is paranoid about preparing for the futureIs there a reason she is concerned about money?
Unable to get a job after having a child 4.5 years back.Why does she not work? Is she, perhaps, feeling insecure being dependent on you without an income of her own?
I typically spend most of my time home with her as she does not want to get a baby sitter so we can have a date night!Do you spend time together, just the two of you, in private, without distraction?
I have tried but she refuses. I have asked her to speak to people at the church. But she closes down and refuses to open up/Is marriage counseling a possibility?
When she asked for money a few months back I ask what are you worried about why do you need to save etc. All she said was "Just because" then went silent.SO she is clearly planning for HER to be comfortable in the future -- SEPARATE from you.
these are all red flags. What is driving this? Have you spoken with her as to what the issues are?